How to Let Go of Anger and Hate (26 Tips + Expert Insights)

Anger and hate are emotions we all feel at some point. They are strong and can take over our thoughts if we’re not careful. These emotions can be overwhelming, affecting not only our own well-being but also the lives of those around us.

The good news is we don’t have to let anger and hate control us. We have the power to choose a different path—one of forgiveness, understanding, and peace. It may not be an easy journey, but it can transform our lives in positive ways.

In this article, I’ll show you clear, straightforward techniques that have helped me and many others soften feelings of anger and hate. We’ll take this step by step together.

Practice Mindfulness and Self-Awareness

When you practice mindfulness, you learn to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment—taking a step back and watching your feelings from a distance. This helps you recognize when anger or hatred starts to bubble up inside you.

Ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now?” and “What thoughts are running through my mind?” By becoming more aware of your inner world, you’ll be better equipped to manage anger and hate when they arise.

Acknowledge and Accept Your Feelings

It’s important to remember that all emotions, even unpleasant ones, are valid and deserve to be recognized. When you try to suppress or ignore your anger, it often intensifies and leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Instead, take a moment to sit with your anger and acknowledge its presence. By accepting your emotions, you give yourself permission to experience them fully without judgment.

What this looks like in practice:

  • Notice when anger arises in your body (e.g., clenched fists, tense shoulders).
  • Name the emotion: “I am feeling angry”
  • Accept the feeling without trying to change it or push it away.
  • Take a deep breath and let the anger pass through you.
"Don’t try to rush past them [your feelings]. They’re telling you something, and chances are there is a way that your emotions are trying to protect you. That doesn’t mean you have to accept them or believe what they’re telling you—just honor the role that they’re playing. They’re trying to help you.

Explore what these emotions are trying to tell you. Chances are, they might be a clue that the person you’re feeling anger toward didn’t live up to your expectations in some way.

• What expectations did you have of them?
• How did they fall short?
• Were your expectations legitimate?

Ask yourself if what you’re feeling now might be tied to experiences you had in the past that you haven’t fully worked through or processed yet. Some of what you’re feeling might not be about this person or this situation at all, but might be about a previous relationship.

Until you fully explore and process these emotions, they’ll keep resurfacing."

Loren N. Barnes, M.Ed., PLPC | Psychotherapist, Trinity Wellness

Identify Your Anger Triggers

Understanding what triggers your anger is important for learning how to let go of it. As we talked about earlier, mindfulness helps you recognize when anger starts to arise. Common anger triggers include:

  • Feeling disrespected or treated unfairly
  • Experiencing stress or frustration
  • Encountering someone with differing views or beliefs
  • Dealing with traffic or slow-moving lines

Identifying your triggers is not about avoiding them altogether. Once you know your triggers, you can develop strategies for managing them more effectively. When you prepare and plan, you’re more likely to respond than react.

"If you can’t reach a point of forgiving, you need to dig into WHY you are experiencing hate and anger. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help identify the root of the pain.

• What am I feeling?
• Why am I feeling this way?
• When was the last time I felt like this?
• What caused me to feel this way before?
• What does this instance have in common with instances of the past?
• Are the anger and hate worth it?
• Does it stem from a lack of validation?
• Can you be “the bigger” person and forgive?
• Can you forgive yourself for allowing yourself to hold on to the anger and hate?

By now you should have an understanding of where the anger and hate come from. [...] Your answers are a list of rules that will help you identify why you are feeling hate and anger."

Ann Ball | RMT Certified Coach

Know the Source of Your Frustration

Sometimes, our frustrations stem from unmet needs or expectations, past traumas, or a sense of powerlessness. Other times, anger may be masking more vulnerable emotions like fear, sadness, or shame.

To get to the bottom of your frustration, try asking yourself some probing questions:

  • What is it about this situation that’s really bothering me?
  • Is there a deeper emotion beneath my anger that I’m not acknowledging?
  • Are there any unresolved issues from my past that could be contributing to my current frustration?

By exploring the sources of your anger, you can start to address them more directly and find healthier ways to cope.

"The first step is to identify why you are angry. For instance, you might be lashing out at your coworker when really you are upset over a fight you had with your spouse.

Recognizing that you are misdirecting your anger can help you cool down and apologize to the wronged party. You don’t want to burn bridges with everyone in your life, so make sure to know the source of your frustration so that you can manage the issue properly."

— Caleb Backe | Health & Wellness Expert, Maple Holistics

Process the More Vulnerable Feelings

Anger and hatred often mask more vulnerable feelings like hurt, fear, or insecurity. We might lash out in anger to avoid feeling hurt, rejected, or afraid. But as I mentioned earlier, suppressing these feelings only gives them more power over us in the long run.

That’s why it’s so important to create space for processing the more emotions that can fuel our anger and hatred. This means acknowledging the presence of these vulnerable feelings and allowing yourself to fully express them.

Try asking yourself, “What am I really feeling?” You might discover that beneath your anger is a deep sense of sadness or disappointment.

"Letting go of anger and hate is often less about letting go of an incident—or even series of incidents—and more about finding ourselves repeating relationship patterns that trigger the dynamics of old and unresolved interpersonal conflict. 

What I find, however, is that a more effective way to genuinely let go of anger and hate is to look for the answer to two uncomfortable questions:

• What, if anything, could my part in the issue, problem or injury be?
What might I be getting out of holding onto the anger and hate (and injury)?

With this vision, we can question our own behavior and ask ourselves if, when and how we might “put ourselves in a position to be hurt."

Most of us genuinely desire to heal our old wounds, and repeating unresolved conflicts in current relationships—while they can and do trigger often intense feelings of anger and hatred—also gives us a chance to resolve, with the people in our contemporary lives, the old wounds that have not yet healed."

Mark B. Borg, Jr., Ph.D. | Clinical/Community Psychologist and Psychoanalyst

Express Your Anger in Journal Writing

As we discussed earlier, acknowledging and accepting your anger is an important part of letting it go. One powerful way to do this is through journaling. Writing about your anger and hatred can provide a safe, judgment-free space to explore and release these emotions.

When you sit down to journal, don’t censor yourself. Let your thoughts and feelings flow onto the page without worrying about grammar, spelling, or coherence. You might start by describing a situation that triggered your anger or hatred, then write in detail how it made you feel and why.

Once you’ve gotten all your emotions out on the page, you can choose to keep the letter, burn it, or you can always rip up—a symbolic way of releasing anger and hatred!

"If we are holding onto the negative things that happened in our lives, sometimes writing down what we would have wanted the outcome to be is helpful in letting it go forever. This allows me to see a physical response to something that’s inside my body and mind. 

The next time that angry negative thought or hatred comes into my space, I can remember burning it up physically and destroying it. Then I am free to write myself a new story."

KJ Landis | Author, Superior Self series | Nutrition Educator

Use Relaxation Techniques to Calm Down

When we feel anger and hate, our bodies often respond with physical symptoms like a racing heart, tense muscles, and shallow breathing. In these moments, relaxation techniques will help us calm our nervous system and regain emotional balance.

One of my go-to relaxation practices is deep belly breathing. Here’s how it works:

  • Find a comfortable seated position and close your eyes.
  • Place one hand on your belly and the other on your chest.
  • Take a slow, deep breath through your nose, feeling your belly expand.
  • Exhale slowly through your mouth, noticing your belly fall.
  • Continue this pattern for several minutes, focusing on the sensation of your breath.

Other effective relaxation techniques include progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery, and practicing mindfulness, which we talked about earlier. Experiment with different methods to find what works best for you!

Get Regular Exercise to Release Tension

Exercise isn’t just good for your physical health—it’s also a powerful tool for managing anger and hatred. When we engage in physical activity, our bodies release endorphins, the feel-good chemicals that naturally boost our mood and reduce stress.

Here are a few activities that you can try:

  • Brisk walking: A simple walk can help clear your mind and reduce anger.
  • Boxing: Feeling really angry? Hit a punching bag. It’s cathartic.
  • Yoga: Perfect for both the body and soul. It stretches out the kinks and brings a sense of peace.

The key is finding an activity you genuinely enjoy. Maybe that’s dancing in your living room or going for a bike ride. Aim to get at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week—but even a quick 10-minute walk can help calm your mind and diffuse anger at the moment.

Develop Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Let’s face it—life can be stressful, and triggers for anger and hatred are sometimes unavoidable. That’s why developing healthy coping mechanisms can help you face challenging situations without getting consumed by negative emotions.

Some examples of healthy coping mechanisms include:

  • Spending time in nature.
  • Practicing deep breathing or meditation.
  • Engaging in a creative hobby, like painting or playing music.
  • Practicing self-care activities, like taking a relaxing bath or reading a good book.

The goal is to have a variety of techniques you can turn to when anger and hatred arise rather than relying on unhealthy outlets like substance abuse, overeating, or lashing out at others.

Don’t Suppress Anger in Unhealthy Ways

Acknowledging and processing anger is important, but it’s equally important to avoid suppressing it in unhealthy ways. When we bottle up our anger or numb it with substances like alcohol or drugs, we’re not really dealing with the root issues.

In fact, this kind of avoidance can make anger and hatred grow over time. So, what are some unhealthy ways of suppressing anger to watch out for? Here are a few examples:

  • Ignoring or denying your angry feelings.
  • Using food, shopping, or other distractions to numb your emotions.
  • Lashing out at others with sarcasm or passive-aggressive behavior.
  • Turning anger inward and beating yourself up with negative self-talk.

If you find yourself relying on these coping mechanisms, try to note when and why you’re using them. Then, gently redirect yourself toward healthier strategies, like the ones we’ve discussed earlier: journaling, relaxation techniques, exercise, and seeking support.

Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness

It’s easy to blame others or external circumstances for our anger and unhappiness. We might think, “If only my partner would change,” or “If I had a better job, I wouldn’t be so miserable.”

Here’s a little secret: No one else holds the key to your happiness. Sure, people and circumstances can influence how you feel, but at the end of the day, you are the one in charge.

I know it can be challenging to accept this idea, especially when we feel hurt or wronged by others. Taking ownership of our happiness means recognizing that while we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can control how we respond and our choices moving forward.

"Regardless of what is going on around you, you have to take responsibility for your own happiness. No one else can do that for you.

Really take a moment to step back and pinpoint the source of your anger and hate. Ask yourself “Why does this situation make me feel this way? Where did this all start?” Then ask yourself the tough question. . . “What is my role in this?

[…] Accepting responsibility for your thoughts and emotions empowers you to take control of the direction of your life. When you understand that you are in charge of your own happiness, you regain control of your life and can then make the necessary changes..."

— Eiram A. Nairb | Mindset and Manifestation Expert, The Blue Optimist

Practice Empathy and See Other Perspectives

When we put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and try to understand their perspective, it becomes much harder to hold onto resentment. I know it’s not always easy, especially when someone has hurt or wronged us.

Ask yourself: What might be happening to this person beneath the surface? Could they be acting out of their own pain, fear, or insecurity? How might I feel or behave in their situation?

Another way to practice empathy is to actively seek out different perspectives. Read books, watch movies, or listen to podcasts that expose you to experiences and viewpoints different from your own.

Have conversations with people from diverse backgrounds and really listen to their stories. The more we can expand our empathy and see the world through others’ eyes, the less room there is for anger and hate. 

Focus on Solutions, Not Dwelling on Problems

Dwelling on problems can deepen your frustration and make anger harder to let go of. Instead, try to shift your focus to finding solutions. This doesn’t mean ignoring the problem but rather working towards a resolution.

Let’s shift the focus:

  • Identify the problem, sure, but then quickly think about possible solutions.
  • Break it down—what steps can you take right now, no matter how small?
  • Have this mindset: every problem is really a question in disguise, asking for answers.

Of course, not every problem has an easy solution. But even in complex situations, focusing on what you can control—your own thoughts, feelings, and actions—you’ll be better equipped to face these challenges with resilience.

Let Go of Things You Can’t Control

One of the biggest sources of anger and hatred is trying to control things that are beyond our control. But accepting that some things are beyond your control is a powerful step toward letting go of anger and hate. 

The truth is we only have control over ourselves—our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Focusing on the uncontrollable can lead to frustration. But letting go of this need for control can free us to focus on what we can change.

Look Forward, Not Backward

Dwelling on past conflicts or wrongs only fuels anger and resentment. Instead, focus on what lies ahead. Think about your future goals and aspirations, and use them as motivation to move beyond current frustrations.

  • Plan Positive Activities: Make plans for fun or meaningful activities, like starting a new hobby or project. This shifts your focus from past issues to future possibilities.
  • Set Personal Goals: Define what you want to achieve in the coming months—be it personal growth, career advancements, or relationship improvements.

By setting goals, making plans, and taking action toward the life you want, you’ll naturally start to let go of anger and hatred from the past. Remember, you have the power to shape your future, no matter what’s happened before.

"Letting go of anger and hate is a matter of overcoming fear and everything that can lead to it, such as disappointment, embarrassment, knowing that you were lied to, and more. The person or people who hurt you will not be affected by your long-lasting negativity. You will, though, and in negative ways. [...] 

Look forward, not backward. Your blood pressure and mood will improve with the efforts you make. The rest of your life will follow along."

— Yocheved Golani | Editor | Content Provider,

Anchor Yourself in the Present Moment

Staying anchored in the present moment can significantly reduce feelings of anger and frustration by keeping your focus away from past regrets and future anxieties. Here’s how you can practice this:

  • Practice Mindful Breathing: Whenever you find your thoughts drifting to anger-inducing memories or worries, bring your focus back to your breathing.
  • Engage Fully in Current Activities: Whether you’re eating, walking, or speaking with someone, try to immerse yourself fully in the activity without letting your mind wander.

This focus on the present moment helps maintain a calm state of mind, fostering a greater appreciation for now and reducing the impact of anger.

Express Yourself Assertively, Not Aggressively

Expressing your feelings is important, but how you express them makes all the difference. When we communicate aggressively, through yelling, name-calling, or physical violence, we only fuel more anger and conflict.

But when we express ourselves assertively, with honesty, respect, and clarity, we create opportunities for understanding and resolution. Assertive communication involves:

  • Speaking calmly and clearly, even when you’re feeling upset.
  • Use “I” statements to express your feelings and needs (e.g., “I feel hurt when…” instead of “You always…”).
  • Listening actively to the other person’s perspective without interrupting or getting defensive.
  • Being open to compromise and finding win-win solutions.

Learning to communicate assertively takes practice. But it helps reduce personal anger and build stronger, more respectful relationships, decreasing the chances of future conflicts.

Opt-Out of Arguments

Not every disagreement needs to turn into a full-blown argument. Sometimes, the best way to prevent anger and hate from escalating is to simply opt out of the fight. This doesn’t mean being a pushover but making a conscious choice to prioritize your own peace over the need to be right.

I know it can be tempting to engage when someone pushes your buttons or challenges your views. But ask yourself, “Is this argument really worth my time and energy?” More often than not, the answer is no.

Of course, opting out of an argument doesn’t mean avoiding important conversations or suppressing your feelings. As we talked about earlier, expressing yourself assertively is important. Learn to recognize when a discussion is pointless and when to walk away.

Use Humor to Release Tension

Humor is a great way to release tension and lighten the mood, even in the middle of anger and hatred. Laughter helps us gain perspective, reminding us not to take ourselves or the situation too seriously.

Some ways to incorporate humor when you’re feeling angry or hateful:

  • Watch a funny video or TV show that always makes you laugh.
  • Share a silly meme or joke with a friend who understands your sense of humor.
  • Look for the absurdity or irony in the situation, and allow yourself to chuckle at the ridiculousness of it all.

I’m not suggesting you make light of serious issues or use humor to avoid dealing with your emotions. There’s a time and place for everything, and reading the room is important.

But when used appropriately, a well-timed joke or a bit of self-deprecating humor can ease the tension.

Set Boundaries to Protect Your Well-Being

Boundaries are essential for maintaining your emotional well-being and preventing anger and hatred from taking over. When you set clear, healthy boundaries, you communicate to yourself and others what you will and will not tolerate.

This helps you create a sense of safety, respect, and control in your life. You get to decide who you let in, how close they get, and how long they stay. This might look like:

  • Saying no to requests or invitations that don’t serve you.
  • Speaking up when someone crosses a line or treats you poorly.
  • Prioritizing self-care and alone time to recharge and process your emotions.
  • Limiting your time with people who consistently drain your energy or spark negativity.

Setting boundaries isn’t about being mean or pushing people away. It’s about knowing your needs and values and teaching others to treat you respectfully. Like any new skill, boundary-setting takes practice.

Practice Forgiveness for Yourself and Others

Forgiveness often starts with forgiving yourself. Many of us carry guilt, shame, or self-blame for past mistakes or perceived shortcomings. By extending compassion and understanding to yourself, you show the forgiveness you want to offer others.

Some ways to practice self-forgiveness:

  • Let go of perfectionism and the need to be “good enough.”
  • Make amends where possible, and then allow yourself to move forward.
  • Acknowledge your humanness and the fact that everyone makes mistakes.
  • Speak to yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would a good friend.

Forgiveness is the key to letting go of anger and hatred. When we hold onto grudges or resentment, we only hurt ourselves. Those negative emotions can destroy our peace of mind and keep us stuck in the past.

"Letting go allows room for forgiveness and healing. Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning hurtful actions or allowing someone to hurt us repeatedly. Forgiveness is the refusal to allow hate and resentment to take up residence within us. 

Releasing the anger and choosing to forgive is one of the most empowering things we can do for ourselves. Forgiveness shifts the power away from those who have wronged us and frees us to pursue more joy and love."

Wendi Christner, CIHt | Certified Interpersonal Hypnotherapist | Author, The Acorn’s Song

Surround Yourself with Positive People

The company you keep can influence your mood and outlook on life. Surrounding yourself with positive people promotes a lighter, more optimistic view of the world. These individuals often encourage you, cheer you on, and help you see situations in a more hopeful light.

Take a look at your social circle and notice how different people make you feel. Do certain friends always seem to drain your energy or leave you feeling angry and resentful? Do others inspire you, make you laugh, and bring out the best in you?

As you work on letting go of anger and hatred, it’s important to be mindful of the company you keep. The company you surround yourself with usually reflects the kind of life and person you want to be.

Lean on Your Support System

Everyone needs a little help sometimes, especially when dealing with strong emotions like anger and hate. A support system, whether it’s friends, family, or a support group, provides a network of people who understand what you’re going through and can offer guidance or just a listening ear.

Leaning on your support system might look like this:

  • Ask a family member for advice on handling a challenging situation or relationship.
  • Seeking guidance from a mentor, coach, or therapist who can offer objective insights and tools for growth.
  • Calling a trusted friend when you feel overwhelmed with anger or hate and need someone to listen.
  • Joining a support group or online community of people who are also working on letting go of negative emotions.

Relying on your support system doesn’t mean you are weak; it shows you are wise enough to recognize when you need a helping hand.

Channel Anger into Productive Action

Anger doesn’t have to be destructive. When channeled correctly, it can drive you to make positive changes. Channeling your anger into action means using that energy for something beneficial rather than letting it consume you.

  • Identify constructive outlets: Engage in activities that allow you to express your frustrations in healthy ways, such as sports, creative arts, or community service.
  • Set goals based on what makes you angry: If certain injustices or inefficiencies anger you, work towards solutions that alleviate these issues.

Transforming a potentially negative force into something that can benefit yourself and others contributes to meaningful change in your surroundings and creates feelings of accomplishment and a sense of purpose.

Welcome the Discomfort of Being Vulnerable

Feeling vulnerable is often seen as a weakness, but it’s actually a strength, especially when working through anger and hate. Vulnerability allows you to open up and confront the feelings you might rather avoid, and in doing so, you begin the healing process.

Embracing vulnerability might look like:

  • Admit to yourself when you’re hurt or a situation has deeply affected you.
  • Remember, it’s okay to feel exposed when addressing your emotions; it’s part of moving forward.
  • Share your feelings with someone you trust, it could lead to deeper connection and understanding.
"Anger is what we call a secondary emotion. It's an emotion we have when it's actually too hard to experience what we really feel.

When we welcome the uncomfortableness of being vulnerable, we allow ourselves an opportunity to heal from the true emotion of disappointment or guilt and then negating feelings of anger or hate."

Dr. Angela Kenzslowe, Psy.D., MBA
| Clinical Psychologist | Founder, Purple Heart Behavioral Health LLC | Best Selling Author | Transformational Speaker

Seek Professional Help if Needed

If you find yourself struggling to let go of anger and hatred on your own, or if your emotions are impacting your daily life and relationships, it may be time to seek professional help.

Sometimes, the best way to handle anger and hate is to admit you need help from someone trained to deal with such feelings. There’s no shame in seeking professional support; it’s a proactive step towards better mental health and well-being.

A trained therapist or counselor can provide a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your feelings, develop new coping skills, and work through past traumas or challenges. You deserve to heal and grow—and getting the help you need to do just that is okay.

More Insights from the Experts

“Forgive yourself for being human and move forward… Cry over the emotional and physical or financial losses that you’ve experienced. Grieve until you’re ready to breathe in fresh air and to start over.

[…] Do things to benefit yourself and never at the expense of someone else. Think constructive thoughts and take constructive actions.

You’ll make mistakes. But sometimes you’ll experience exciting insights. That’s normal. Keep practicing until you’re succeeding with your goal of focusing on positive thoughts and actions instead of negativity.”

— Yocheved Golani | Editor | Content Provider,

“[…] when you hate someone, you’re letting them control you. The other person might be going about their lives totally oblivious to your feelings, while you hold an internal grudge that eats away at you whenever you see them or think about them.

It’s no fun being upset at someone and being in a bad mood whenever their name comes up. So, in order to release yourself from this anger and tension, release your hate. View this as a way to free yourself from their grip…”

— Caleb Backe | Health & Wellness Expert, Maple Holistics

“For the most part, we believe that the anger is directed outwards, but on reflection, it can be so hard to let go of because it is actually directed at ourselves. People often use these strong, negative emotions to shield them from other feelings and greater fears that they don’t want to face.

In order to let go [of anger and hate] then:

• You will need to look at who you are angry at specifically.
• What happened? And take a step back to be realistic about the actual event
• Was what happened something inevitable or beyond control?
• What are the true consequences of the event that made you so angry?
• Face those fears and break them down into things that you can take in small steps.
• Is there any benefit or negative to you for holding on to this?
• Forgive (yourself included)
• Anchor yourself in this present moment
• Look at new goals for your future.”

Fiona Eckersley | Confidence Coach | Divorce Recovery Expert

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take to let go of anger and hate?

Letting go of anger and hate is a process that can take time. It’s not a one-time event but rather a practice of consistently releasing negative emotions and cultivating more positive ones.

What if I’m struggling to forgive someone who hurt me?

Remember that forgiveness is ultimately a choice you make for your own well-being, not for the other person.

It doesn’t mean condoning their actions or forgetting what happened, but rather releasing the hold that anger and resentment have over you.

What if I feel like my anger is justified?

Even if your anger feels justified, holding onto it can still harm your well-being. It’s important to acknowledge and validate your feelings while finding healthy ways to process and release them.

Focus on what you can control—your own thoughts, actions, and reactions—rather than dwelling on the person or situation that caused your anger.

Is it okay to express my anger?

Yes, expressing anger can be healthy if done constructively. Use “I” statements to communicate how you feel without blaming others.

Express yourself assertively, not aggressively, and focus on solutions to the issue at hand. Talking with a trusted friend or therapist can also provide a safe outlet for your emotions.

Should I seek professional help if I can’t let go of anger on my own?

If anger and hate are overwhelming and impact your daily life, seeking professional help can be a wise decision. Therapists can offer strategies and support to help you manage and process your emotions healthily.

Final Thoughts

It’s not easy to let go of anger and hate, but it’s definitely possible. It’s not something that happens overnight but rather a series of small steps that you take every day. Some days may be harder than others, but I want you to know that every effort you make is valuable.

Letting go of anger and hate is a brave and transformative choice. It takes courage to face these emotions head-on and decide you want something better for yourself and your life. May these tips help you and remind you to trust in your own strength; you’ve got this!

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Erika Maniquiz is a certified teacher and librarian with a Library and Information Science degree. She cherishes the calm moments reading books as much as the dynamic discussions she has in her classroom. Beyond her career, she is a fan of Kdrama and loves Kpop's lively beats.