50 Questions to Ask Your Ex Girlfriend

Breakups are never easy, and sometimes, we’re left with unanswered questions that linger long after the relationship ends.

I’ll help you navigate this delicate process by sharing questions that can lead to meaningful and healing conversations.

Whether you want to understand what went wrong, learn from the past, or just find a bit of closure, these questions are a good place to start.

Relationship Advice/Breakup Advice

1. Why did you feel the need to end the relationship?
2. Was there a specific moment when you decided it was over?
3. Do you think we could have done something differently to save the relationship?
4. What is your perspective on why we didn’t work out?
5. What were some of the things you appreciated the most in our relationship?
6. Were there any deal-breakers for you that led to the breakup?
7. How do you view our relationship now, with some time gone by?
8. What were some of the happiest moments we shared?
9. Do you think we were a good match but met at the wrong time?
10. Did you ever feel misunderstood in our relationship?

Emotional Health and Wellness

1. How are you feeling emotionally after our breakup?
2. Have you felt any significant changes in your emotional health since we split up?
3. What emotions do you associate with our time together?
4. Do you think there’s something you need to heal from our relationship?
5. How do you take care of your emotional well-being now?
6. Are you happy with how we ended things, emotionally?
7. Do you have any regrets about how we managed our emotional challenges?
8. How have you been coping with the breakup overall?
9. Is there something you’d recommend for both of us to heal easier?
10. Do you feel more at peace now that we’re apart?

Personal Growth and Self-Improvement

1. How have you grown personally since our breakup?
2. What did you learn about yourself from our relationship?
3. In what ways do you think I can improve myself for future relationships?
4. Are there any habits or behaviors you’ve changed after we broke up?
5. Have you discovered any new passions or interests post-breakup?
6. What are some positive changes you’ve noticed in your life since the breakup?
7. How do you approach relationships differently now?
8. Do you have any advice for me on personal growth?
9. How has our relationship shaped the way you view love?
10. What did you learn about what you want in a partner?

Communication Strategies

1. How do you think we could have communicated better?
2. Were there times you felt I didn’t listen to you properly?
3. What were the hardest things for you to communicate to me?
4. Do you think we had healthy communication patterns?
5. How do you prefer to handle disagreements now?
6. Is there a communication approach you’ve found more effective after our breakup?
7. What could I have done to make our communication stronger?
8. Did you ever find our conversations unproductive or frustrating?
9. Do you think we talked enough about our feelings?
10. How can we both communicate better in future relationships?

Rekindling Relationships

1. Do you think there’s a possibility for us to start again?
2. Have you thought about getting back together at any point?
3. What would it take for us to make things work this time?
4. How do you feel about giving our relationship another shot?
5. Are there things you think we should resolve first if we were to consider getting back together?
6. Do you believe we’ve both grown enough to try again?
7. Would you be open to discussing what could change for a better relationship?
8. What are your main reservations about getting back together?
9. Do you think time apart has been beneficial for us?
10. How do you feel about the idea of rekindling our relationship in the future?