60+ Signs You’ve Found Your Soulmate

The idea of finding your soulmate is something that many people strive for. After all, it’s someone who you’re supposed to spend the rest of your life with.

But how do you know if you’ve already found your soulmate? While there’s no foolproof formula, there are certain signs that may indicate whether or not you’ve met the person you’re meant to be with.

According to experts, here are the common signs that you have found your soulmate:

Sacrifice and compromise feel beneficial because it is toward a greater goal

I don’t think there is only one soulmate in a lifetime. I think you meet multiple versions of yourself and your partner, and if you can grow together, you fall in love again with each version of yourself.

Your soulmate is not going to try and change you

Your soulmate or life partner is not going to try and change you. They will be accepting of you for who you are and become your biggest cheerleader in life. You’ll also notice that you use different pronouns, you’ll start switching to plural and say “we” and “us” instead of “me” or “mine.”

You have similar values

You have similar values, and they meet your emotional needs (these are why I say meet later in life because values and needs are variable and can change over time.)

Soulmate relationships are built, not just happened into

Soulmate relationships are characterized by respect, willingness to learn, openness to personal growth, and commitment.

With that said, soulmate relationships are built, not just happened into.

Anyone who is in the heady experience of falling in love might believe they’ve found their soulmate, but the proof comes later when she overdraws the checking account, or he forgot her birthday.

Managing conflict determines the ultimate outcome of the relationship

What happens in those moments is what determines if this is going to be a soulmate relationship or not. It’s how a couple manages conflict that determines the ultimate outcome of the relationship.

If they don’t have good communication and conflict management skills, the “in love” feelings will either fade away or blow up.

Of course, some relationships do prove to be a mistake and must be abandoned. But many, many more are simply running the natural course of romance.

“In love” feelings must be backed up by commitment

The “in love” feelings must be backed up by commitment to the person and making the necessary adjustments to make the relationship work long-term.

This may mean attending a class to learn better methods of communicating. It may also mean learning to handle anger respectfully. (Yes, even soulmates sometimes need good anger management skills)

It often means exchanging poor habits for better ones for the ultimate good of the relationship.

My late husband and I were madly in love. We had both been widowed and were ecstatic to have found each other. We were both mature (or thought we were), had faced some major disappointments in our lives, and believed we could handle anything.

But the unique challenges of stepfamily dynamics brought us to our knees. We eventually got tired enough of the conflicts to seek help, and help meant learning how to respectfully communicate even when we were in disagreement.

It also meant choosing to call a “time out” whenever either of us was stepping over the line into our old disrespectful reactions. We worked hard to maintain a strict line of “Respect 24/7,” which gave us the peace we needed in order to resolve our conflict.

It was only then that we really began to experience a soulmate marriage.

You feel a sense of familiarity

You do not feel the need to constantly be your best self all the time because being with your soulmate gives you the confidence not just to indulge your deepest desire but be one with your inner self.

You have your own lives outside of the relationship

Often, relationships fall apart because most couples build their worlds around each other. A relationship with your soulmate vanquishes all your self-doubts and generates enough security to let you have your own identity, space, quiet times, etc.

Being with the one for you encourages you to find or get back to your passion, and it drives you to be your own person.

You know you are with your soulmate when you aren’t just comfortable with spending time apart, but you are being cheered upon as you plot your own course.

They know the real you, even the things you don’t verbalize

As cliche as it may sound, being with your soulmate means being understood without having to say much. Being on the same emotional and mental frequency, your soulmate really knows the real you that they pick up on, even the things you don’t verbalize.

With your soulmate, you’ll find the perfect match that you almost share one single brain with.

Their scent is irresistible

Your soulmate’s body scent, without cologne, deodorant, shaving cream or other fragrances that conceals their natural smell, will smell pleasant, if not downright delicious.

Our bodies know before our minds what is a match for us and give us its wisdom in the form of scent and pheromones, among other bodily senses.

Your body is expansive in their presence

You know you are in the presence of your soulmate because your body will feel open and light up.

Your chest may puff out, your head will be upright, and your posture may be taller. Your face will be lit up like a Christmas tree, and your body will stand proud.

You enjoy and engage in deep eye contact

With a soulmate, prolonged eye gazing feels natural and easeful. It is not difficult to look into each other’s eyes and experience the intimacy of that act.

You easily express what you mean to each other

You know you’ve met a soulmate when you can share with each other love and connection and you can talk about that connection.

The feeling of having met someone of significance in your life is magical, but it’s made real when it is made known that the feeling is mutual.

Related: What Happens When You Meet Your Soulmate

Move your expectations away from perfection towards something more realistic

Myth 1: Your perfect match is out there

You’re at another dreaded family dinner party where everyone is married or is about to be, and your search for Mr. Right is as dry as the Mojave Desert.

You slink over to the appetizer table, dodging your Aunt Kathy, and balance your drink in one hand while grabbing for the salami and cream cheese rolls.

Aunt Kathy sneaks up on your left side. You go to move down, but your older, married sister shows up on your right side.

“So, are you dating anyone?” Your sister chimes in, “Nope, she’s still single.” Aunt Kathy puts you in a big hug, “Oh darling, Mr. Right is out there for you. Don’t give up hope. It’s not like you’re thirty yet.”

Your sister bursts out laughing and walks away. You smile at Aunt Kathy, thinking, “I turned thirty, three years ago.”

From the time you were little, you received the message, explicitly and implicitly, that there is one person out there who is meant just for you and perfect.

Whether you heard it at home, at school, or saw it in almost every Disney film, this idea of the perfect mate was delivered to you with a big red bow. And at the risk of sounding blunt, I am here to tell you there is no such person as a perfect partner or match. Just as oil doesn’t mix with water, perfection doesn’t exist in reality.

As an individual, if you cannot separate what is pretend and unattainable from the truth, you create unreal expectations on both ends. This makes you look for perfection in another and yourself.

Expecting that you or your life should look like a doctored Instagram post or a Hollywood creation is a lot of pressure to start your search for a potential mate.

So, let’s cut to the chase: you are not perfect, and neither is anyone else.

Once you dial down your expectations, you will open yourself up to the possibility of finding a suitable mate or partner in life.

Still, they may stimulate you emotionally, physically, and spiritually to enhance your life. And shouldn’t that be the goal? Shouldn’t a relationship make your life better, not fulfill some ideal you’ve created in your mind?

I am not pushing the concept of just accepting anyone or settling. But I am saying the expectation of perfection isn’t attainable. So, perhaps happiness lies somewhere in the middle.

Related: What Makes People Happy?

Donald Winnicott, a pediatrician, developed the “Good Enough” theory concerning mothers and their children. This theory incorporated Freud’s theory of introjection.

Introjection is when we take on others’ attitudes while suppressing our own as a means of survival. His concept centered around a mother’s desire to be perfect as defined by society.

Winnicott’s theory states that being “good enough” is optimal since perfection doesn’t exist, and a mother’s failures benefit the child. And by fail, he means something the child can overcome.

For example, if the child wants a snack but the mother doesn’t have one prepared, the child must wait or get the snack themself. The mother’s imperfection is preparing the child for life.

So, can you apply the “good enough” theory to a partner? Yes, because we need to stop expecting perfection because, as I’ve said, it doesn’t exist in any human. Also, the theory of “good enough” focuses on realistic expectations as being the apex.

What am I suggesting you do?

First, write down all the characteristics you would want someone to possess, such as being athletic, honest, compassionate, financially independent, and motivated.

Review that list carefully and circle which attributes are most important to you. Then identify those qualities you can overlook if they aren’t there and put a line through them.

Now you will have a list that addresses your needs.

The takeaway:

Finding someone to date can be like buying your first new car on a budget. You want all the options, but you need to decide which ones are most important. You may say yes to air conditioning, no to lighted cupholders.

Before you start your search for a mate, be genuine and honest with yourself. What are the things that matter and the things that don’t? Move your expectations away from perfection towards something more realistic.

Myth 2: Soulmates exist

As I’ve said before, life is not a Disney movie. There may be one person for you or many. No one knows what life holds for them, but we create unrealistic expectations when we think in terms of fairy tales.

In the movie Good Will Hunting, Robin Williams defines a soulmate as “Someone who challenges you. Someone who touches your soul.” I like this definition for its content and because it challenges the theory that there is only one lid for your pot.

Let me explain. Do you think there could be more than one person for you who could fit Williams’ definition? Yes, absolutely.

We can connect with more than just one person who can fulfill our emotional and physical needs. Yet, some are lucky enough to find one person and stay with them for their life; for others, they find individuals who work for a time in their lives.

The takeaway:

The movie Cinderella would have you believe only one foot could fit the glass slipper. Ah, not sure that makes sense. Suppose Cinderella was a size 6, was she the only size 6 in the whole kingdom? Hardly.

So, do you think there is only one person who is specifically meant for you?

We all hope the person we are with will last forever. It’s something to work towards, but life is unknown.

Be open, honest, and realistic, and you will find someone who challenges you and touches your soul for life or maybe for now.

In our search for a soulmate, or a romantic partner who we want to be with for the rest of our lives, it can be tough to know when we’ve found someone we work well with.

After all, everyone has strengths and weaknesses, so how can we know when we’ve found a compatible partner we can really stick with for the long run?

I’ve seen many couples grow into great marriages, and I can tell you there are a few ways to know that your relationship is meant for the long term.

These are three signs you’ve found a soulmate:

You will be less scared of the sacrifices

Every relationship requires some sacrifice, whether it’s choosing not to move to another city in search of other opportunities or sacrificing some of your alone time to be with your partner.

All of this is challenging and can be especially challenging if you’re in your first serious relationship. But, if you find yourself not so scared to sacrifice certain things in your life to be with this person, that’s a great sign that you’ve found someone really special to you.

They will feel like a missing piece

Finding a person attractive and fun may be the start of a good relationship, but a great relationship will go deeper than that; there will be an emotional connection that you’ve been craving.

So, when you find someone who offers you the closeness and comfort that you feel like you’ve been missing, that’s a sign that you’re emotionally compatible.

In some ways, they are filling up the space inside that’s felt empty, and that is such a better foundation for your relationship than the surface-level qualities that might have drawn you to them at first.

You’ll see yourself change, and you’ll want that

Part of being with someone is accepting their influence into your life, and when you’re with the right person, you’ll want that.

Your partner will profoundly shape and change you, and they’ll rub off on you in the big and little ways. And, when you find that you want to be a little more like them in some ways, that’s a sign that you deeply respect them.

Maybe you do want to have more of their work ethic, enjoyment of the little moments in life, or something else.

When you find that, you’ll have such an easier time being close with them because you won’t be scared to “lose yourself”; instead, you’ll be excited about growing into the person you’re becoming with them.

For some of us, finding our soulmate is our life’s ambition. We want to know that we are settling down with the person we are meant to be with. This person will complete our lives and make us whole.

Finding your soulmate can be tricky. You might have to wade through the dating pool for a while to find the right person.

Maybe you’ve met the person you think is the one. But how do you know for sure? While there’s no black and white list of criteria or rules, there are some signs to look for.

Here are a few signs that you’ve found your soulmate:

You picture your future together

If you find yourself planning your future with this person, it’s a good possibility that they are your soulmate. When you think about your life five to ten years from now, are they in it?

When you can clearly see what life would be like with this person, and you are excited about what the future holds for your relationship, this can be a clear sign that you are meant to be.

If they aren’t your soulmate, you may find that there are issues or things that would make it difficult to be together long-term.

You don’t have to make them fit

Your soulmate should fit into your life like a missing puzzle piece, filling space perfectly without needing to be reshaped. While no one is perfect, and there are difficulties in relationships even with the people we are meant to be with, a soulmate should complement you.

There shouldn’t be things about this person that you feel need fixing or changing. When it’s right, the perfect person will fit into your life without the need for you to change your ideals or settle.

It feels right

It’s annoying when people say, “You’ll just know when it’s right,” but it’s true. When I met my husband, I finally realized that you do truly know when something is right. After all, this person is your soulmate, so you should feel in your heart that they are the one.

If you find yourself doubting the relationship or feeling like it’s almost perfect but not quite, then it probably isn’t right.

Your soulmate will speak to your soul, and your body and mind will let you know that it’s meant to be.

There is nothing more exciting than meeting someone you feel could very well be “the one.”

Here are my top three signs that you have found your soul mate:

You can count on him

If he always shows up for you, he’s proving to you he could very well be your soulmate.

He makes you feel secure

When a man is seriously interested, he wants to make you feel safe—physically and emotionally.

In large crowds, he will help navigate you. If someone appears aggressive, your man is on alert. He’s an extra pair of eyes and ears, making your physical well-being a priority.

You’ll also notice that your man wants you to feel your best. You won’t feel jealous of other women because your man takes time to compliment and remind you of all the reasons you are special, even when you woke up on the wrong side of the bed or are just having a bad day.

He takes it slow

Having physical intimacy at the right time becomes the goal. There is no pressure or focus on the sexual aspects of your relationship because he knows that this part will evolve at its own pace.

Men seeking casual flings will put an enormous amount of focus on the physical. Dates may seem rushed or overly casual and may feel more like activities to fill time until it becomes suitable to have intimacy.

How would he respond if you nixed the date without spending the night? If you predict any backlash whatsoever, he’s probably more interested in sexy time than learning about you.

If you are dating someone that checks these three boxes, you’re lucky!

Keep dating them through the seasons (at least one year), and don’t be afraid to have very honest conversations about your personal goals. The right man will listen and pay attention to what you’re saying because he cares.

While it might not be on his exact timeline, he will certainly listen and be mature enough to have transparent conversations about a future with you and what that might look like.

Your gut can “know” something but is unable to relay that information to your consciousness

Ever heard the expression trust your gut? Well, it turns out there is a scientific basis for that which can also help you accurately detect when you have met your soulmate.

Our gut has another nervous system called the enteric nervous system. The main difference between the enteric nervous system and your central nervous system (i.e.brain and spinal cord) is that the former does not have conscious thoughts, which would require the more sophisticated outer layer called a cortex.

Therefore, your gut can “know” something but not be able to relay that information to your consciousness in a clear manner.

So, this means your intuition is really based on a feeling from your body that you can’t quite define, but it seems important. Among many other uses, that system in your gut can help detect a deeper connection with a potential partner or even your soulmate.

“Your body vibrates like a gong on a temple mountain”

You’ll know you found your soul mate when your body vibrates like a gong on a temple mountain.

It is generally difficult to capture the experience with words because it resonates in a way that is beyond verbal understanding since it takes place outside our discrete consciousness.

However, people who describe the experience often say their mind was either racing or totally blank. It’s like our brain is either trying to rapidly make sense of the experience or just gives in to it and is totally present.

You feel calm around them

In case you didn’t hear, it is believed soulmates share the same energy. When your partner is away, the energy that makes you feel complete fades. For this reason, you are more likely to feel unsettled.

You can feel their pain

Another top sign that you have found your soulmate can be seen when one of you is in trouble. Because you care so much about each other, you can feel each other’s pain.

You see things differently

Who said soulmates don’t argue? While you might be on the same page about your future goals and hopes as a couple, it is important to understand you have different traits, and arguing is a normal part of any relationship.

If your arguments promote the growth of your relationship, there is a good chance you have found your soulmate.

“When you know, you know”

The adage “When you know, you know” relates directly to dating and relationships; how do you know when you’ve found the one? There are definitely tell-tale signs in your relationship that can help answer this question.

While some lucky people have that “love at first sight” experience, it’s much more common for these signs to surface gradually.

Matchmakers can expedite the process and help identify your match

It takes time to identify if your partner is the right one, which is why professional matchmaking works so well — matchmakers can expedite the process and help identify your match.

Our firm believes there is a science to finding your soulmate. And they help commitment-minded singles find the perfect partner with a proprietary “Meet Your Future” process, where key indicators are revealed about each individual to expertly match them on compatibility, interests, lifestyle, and preferences.

So, is there a true science to finding your soulmate? Yes! There have been several studies on how true love can affect your socialization and speech patterns and even influence your body chemistry!

A 2005 study by New York’s Stony Brook University suggests this is because real love and genuine attachment actually alter the biochemical reactions taking place in your brain.

At the end of the day, there is no doubt that love will always be full of surprises. However, we like to believe that there are both signs and science to soulmates—your best bet is to partner with a professional matchmaker.

You become a better version of yourself when you’re around them because they see the best in you

“Is this really my soulmate?” That is the million-dollar question, and if the answer was simple, every person would be happily in love, and we would live in a different world!

Before discussing the signs that you found your soulmate, we need to recognize if we really love this person. Many times, we confuse real unconditional love with conditional love.

Unconditional love is when you love a person just the way they are and find even their flaws attractive. When you love unconditionally, you truly adore this person and accept all the colors of their personality.

Conditional love, on the other hand, is experienced more often than we realize. We love certain parts of a person and feel the need to correct the rest. Or better off, we love the version that fits our expectations.

This is how we get into codependent relationships, and when our needs aren’t met, we feel unloved, and conflict arises.

The first question I invite you to ask is, “Do I truly love this person?”

If the answer is yes, then we are on track to finding out if this is your true soulmate.

In other words, you become a better version of yourself when you are around them because they see the best in you.

Your true soulmate will never be the same as a karmic connection that will challenge you, hurt you, and catalyze you to react and change. They will not criticize you for who you are nor ask you to consistently cater to their needs regardless of your values.

A soulmate is that person in your life that will be your best friend and your biggest fan.

We are fortunate to encounter quite a few soulmates in our lives.

They can come in the form of love partners, friends, and even family members. And if we are ready to receive their support and love, they will stick around for life.

I invite you to look at every relationship in your life and identify your soulmates. Keep them close to your heart and cherish the gift they truly are.

These people are soulmates because they connect with us on a soul level again and again throughout our lives.

Remember, after all, we are the sum of the people we spend the most time with, so choose wisely!

They are your best friend

A friendship is a really important foundation for a relationship. If your partner is your best friend and you can trust them just as you would a best friend, then that is a good sign that they might also be your soulmate!

They are there for you through all of the ups and downs

Can you count on them? Are they there when you need them? That’s another sign that they are your soulmate.

You feel like you can tell them anything

Do you feel like you can tell your partner anything? If so, that’s another sign that they may be your soulmate. A soulmate is somebody who you feel comfortable sharing with.

They support you through the good times and the bad

Can you count on them to be there through the ups and downs? A soulmate is there for you through both the good times and the bad. When things get tough, they are there for you. They support you when you need it the most.

You feel a sense of completion

Having found a soulmate is like having a best friend for life, a partner to whom you feel connected on every level and feel a deep connection with them.

They make you feel content and happy no matter what, as long as they are with you.

When people think of their soulmates, they often have romantic comedies running through their minds.

It’s common to think of the famous line from Jerry Maguire, “You complete me.” But life isn’t a romantic comedy. There isn’t themed music playing in the background, and your life with your partner doesn’t end with credits rolling across the screen.

If this is the case, what are the signs you’ve found your soulmate?

You feel it in your gut

Though you can’t rely on your gut to make all your important life decisions, you do have gut instincts for a reason.

These instincts are what protect you from harm and let you know if you should be ready for fight or flight. They also tell you when things seem just right, and it’s okay to go with your gut regarding romantic relationships.

You feel peaceful, calm, and satisfied with your partner

If you are with someone that you are constantly fighting or disagreeing with, you might feel like you aren’t happy. Instead, you have feelings of despair and disappointment, or you simply don’t feel content.

When you are with your soulmate, however, feelings like these dissipate quickly. You feel peaceful, calm, and satisfied with your partner.

Your friends and family approve

Though you might not want to admit it, what your friends and family think of your significant other does matter. These are the people that know you almost as well as you know yourself.

They can see when you are with someone that makes you better, and they might indicate to you if your partner is your soulmate.

You know it; you have a strong gut feeling about them

The only way to know for sure if you’ve found your soulmate is to spend time with him or her. You simply need to be aware of it to deduce it.

To know if someone is the right one for you, you need to have a strong gut feeling about them.

Even though it may sound trite, you’ll know what it means when you experience that feeling. Being around them should make you feel energized, at ease, and euphoric with affection.

Connectedness takes diverse forms for different people.

The two of you are inseparable

Why do you believe so many rom-coms are about two best friends who end up in a romantic relationship? It’s a great indicator if you and your partner have a trusting and good relationship.

Related: Trust Building Exercises for Couples 

When you’re around them, you feel at ease

Your significant other should be able to make you feel at ease and at home because you spend so much time with them.

It’s normal to be nervous the first few times you see one other, but once you get to know each other, it should feel completely natural to you both.

You feel a deep connection to them

We feel each other’s pain when they fail an exam; in a sense, we’re all on the same team. You feel bad for them when they’re sad and feel good for them when they’re happy.

Nothing makes you happier than seeing your bae achieve because you are so proud of them.

You have a mutual admiration for each other

If your SO doesn’t respect you for who you are, then they’re probably not the one for you.

Rather than dismissing your thoughts and feelings, your soulmate should respect them. They should always treat you nicely and show their appreciation and love for you.

Your partner will know exactly what to do without saying a word to one another

Once you first start dating, you might confuse the thrill of getting to know someone you’re really into with the feeling of finding “the one.”

So you have to know the difference between those two by waiting for a few signs that would tell you that you did indeed find that soulmate, the one you’d want to spend your whole life with.

But on a very important note, you should start looking for those signs after six months to one year of knowing each other or dating.

Your soulmate doesn’t have to be your partner; they could just be your best friend waiting!

Having a soulmate is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to meet a truly special individual. They are people you enjoy spending time with. The two of you share a unique bond.

You’re drawn to them in a way that you can’t explain

You and your soulmate have a unique relationship that is unlike any other you’ve ever had. Even if it takes a while for you to discover these significant differences, you’re drawn to them in a way that you can’t explain. Because they are a part of you, your spirit can feel them.

Most importantly, in my opinion, is when they are able to discern your subliminal thoughts and desires without your verbal participation. The fact that your soulmate is able to pick up on your thoughts and feelings without you saying anything is incredible.

When I feel an ‘unspoken understanding’ toward me that I can’t articulate, that’s one of the spiritual signals that I have found my soulmate. That’s what you can convey with your soul match without even speaking.

You can tell how each other is feeling

You can tell how each other is feeling since you know each other so well. Whenever something happens, you and your partner will know exactly what to do without saying a word to one another.

Staying up late and revealing your innermost thoughts and feelings while listening to theirs is a great way to spend time with someone special.

Your relationship with this person is unlike anything you’ve ever had before in your life.

As a result, we are now a blessed couple who share each other’s ambitions and allow each other room in every area of our lives and understand what the other person desires, even though we were made for each other.

You can be yourself around them without fear of being judged

A soulmate is someone you connect to on a deep soul level and share a deep emotional bond with.

They don’t necessarily have to be a romantic partner either. They could be a close friend or a family member (some would call their pet a soulmate).

When you meet your soulmate for the first time, there is an instant connection between you that is difficult to explain. They give you a sense of comfort and peace that doesn’t come as naturally while interacting with others.

A soulmate makes you feel heard, valued, and respected. You can be yourself around them without fear of being judged.

Whenever you’re around them, it feels just like home

You can’t find your soulmate because souls are the ones that will bind you to the right one. The only thing you could do is to read signs and relate them to you.

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