So you want to know if a guy likes you more than a friend?
If you don’t have the confidence to come right out and ask him just yet, here are some undeniable signs that he feels something more.
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- You catch gazes often
- He makes time for you
- He is curious about your life
- He confides in you
- He’s making plans—future plans
- He can’t say no your favors or requests
- If you’re texting or talking way more than the friendly amount
- Meet the family
- Excuses for physical contact
- He comments on your appearance
- He clearly tries to extend the conversation when texting
- Frequently Asked Questions
- What if a guy only shows some of these signs? Does that mean he isn’t interested?
- What if I’m not sure I want to be more than friends with him?
- What if I’m too shy to ask him directly how he feels?
- What if I’m afraid of ruining the friendship if I express my feelings?
- What if I misinterpret his signs and he’s not actually interested in me?
- What if I’m not ready for a romantic relationship but still want to spend time with him?
- Can these signs also apply to someone who is just being friendly?
You catch gazes often
A telling sign a guy might be interested in you as more than just friends is if you find that he is always looking at you and catching your gaze. Although it might not necessarily mean he likes you romantically, it does mean he’s interested.
You might even notice that in a room full of people if someone was to crack a joke and the whole room starts to laugh, the first person he will look at is you. Or if he tells a joke he will look at you first to see your reaction, this is because he is most likely trying to impress you.
He makes time for you
If a guy is interested in you romantically, he will show you by making time for you no matter how jam-packed his busy schedule might be. You will find that he is around more often, constantly making plans with you and trying to be around you as much as he can. He won’t be able to get enough of you!
He is curious about your life
If a guy likes you he will be curious about your life. He will want to know your wants, likes, dislikes, past, what you want to do with your future and everything in between. This is because he can’t get enough of you and the more he knows, the more his like for you will be fed. This also is a great strategy for him to plan for the future in the events that he is able to get his wish and start dating you.
He confides in you
If a guy is sharing personal problems or anything from his life with you and he hasn’t been friends with you, he probably likes you. He might see you as someone that could be important to his life and wants to share as much about himself with you as possible and hopefully form a deep bond with you.
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He’s making plans—future plans
No matter how close we are with our friends, there will be days, weeks, or even months that we won’t see each other as life gets in the way. But when your male friend continuously makes monthly plans—hiking, road trips, vacations—that involves just the both of you, take notice.
Think about it; he immediately joins you on his day-offs, thinks of ways to have fun with you, and continually goes out of his way to spend the time with you and you alone.
These plans mean he wants you to be a fixture in his life; he values the friendship, but he’s beginning to see you in a different light—a rose-tinted light to be exact.
He can’t say no your favors or requests
A boy who likes a girl will be like a servant to her (without her knowing) — giving in to everything that the girl would want or need. Boy’s feelings are powerful when it is just starting. They do crazy stuff like this. But only a few maintain it for a long time into the relationship.
If you’re texting or talking way more than the friendly amount
Being friendly and helpful is one thing. But consistently having tons of conversations is another. A person who has real feelings for you will want to regularly talk to you and be a part of your day, even if just through text or chat message. He starts small talks with you regularly and would keep the conversation going for hours.
Whenever you get the chance to meet, he tries his best to interact with you. This gesture is a definite sign that there is more to what you think you have right now.
Adina Mahalli
Certified Mental Health Consultant, Enlightened Reality | Relationship Expert, Maple Holistics
Meet the family
If a friend of yours unexplainably wants you to meet his family, he might like you more than a friend. Men often bring prospective suitors to their family to get a second opinion. Many men will want to know if his family approves of potential partners before bringing it up to them.
This doesn’t include a casual meeting, crossing each other’s path per se. If this ‘meet the family’ is an organized meeting of the entire family, possibly a holiday meal or a birthday, they’re interested in more than just friendship.
Excuses for physical contact
Physical contact is a great way to gauge if someone is romantically interested in you. This can vary greatly, but examples are teaching you how to play pool or offering you a massage. The more physical contact someone has with you the higher likelihood that they are romantically interested in you.
He comments on your appearance
If you are friends with a guy, it is already safe to assume he likes your personality, so compliments about your personality, although nice, don’t necessarily indicate that he sees you as more than a friend.
However, when a guy comments on your appearance, it means he notices you on a physical and possibly sexual level. Usually, we don’t want people knowing we are checking them out unless there is some level of interest.
He clearly tries to extend the conversation when texting
In general, guys aren’t huge texters. They tend to like to use their energy for other things, so if a guy is choosing to use his time and energy to text you, and not just in an “I’m bored entertain me” way, that is a good indication he wants to connect with you more deeply, and frequently. This is doubly true if he is asking personal questions about you.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if a guy only shows some of these signs? Does that mean he isn’t interested?
Not necessarily. Everyone expresses their feelings differently, and some guys may be more reserved when it comes to showing their interest. If you’re unsure how a guy feels about you, it’s always best to approach him directly and ask. However, if a guy consistently shows several of these signs, it’s likely that he’s interested in being more than just friends.
What if I’m not sure I want to be more than friends with him?
It’s important to be honest with yourself and with him about your feelings. If you’re not interested in a romantic relationship, it’s best to tell him sooner rather than later. However, if you’re not sure how you feel, it’s okay to take some time to figure it out. Just make sure you let him know where you stand openly and respectfully.
What if I’m too shy to ask him directly how he feels?
If you are too shy to ask him directly, you can try dropping hints or asking indirect questions to get a sense of what he’s feeling. For example, you could ask him what his ideal date would be or mention a friend who is in a new relationship and ask him for his thoughts.
However, it’s important to remember that indirect communication can be confusing, and it’s always best to be as clear and direct as possible.
What if I’m afraid of ruining the friendship if I express my feelings?
It’s natural to be worried about the possibility of things changing if you express your feelings, but it’s important to remember that honesty and openness are key to any healthy relationship.
If you’re both on the same page about your feelings, it can lead to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. It may be difficult at first if he doesn’t feel the same way, but with time and communication, you can work toward maintaining a strong friendship.
What if I misinterpret his signs and he’s not actually interested in me?
It is possible to misread someone’s signals, and it can be embarrassing or disappointing when you find out he wasn’t as interested as you thought. However, it’s important to remember that miscommunication and misunderstanding are normal parts of human interaction. If you express your feelings and find out he’s not interested, it’s okay to be disappointed, but it doesn’t have to destroy your friendship.
What if I’m not ready for a romantic relationship but still want to spend time with him?
It is possible to maintain a friendship while setting boundaries and communicating your needs. If you’re not interested in a romantic relationship, it’s important to let him know so he’s not confused or hurt.
You can also set boundaries about physical touching or being alone if it makes you uncomfortable. It is possible to have a fulfilling and meaningful friendship with someone even if no romantic feelings are involved.
Can these signs also apply to someone who is just being friendly?
It is possible that some of these signs may be misinterpreted as romantic interest when someone is just being friendly. That’s why looking for patterns and consistency in the person’s behavior is important. If someone regularly shows several of these signs, they are more likely to be interested in more than friendship.
However, if someone only shows one or two of these signs, it could simply be a reflection of their friendly and outgoing personality. Again, communication is key in any relationship. So if you’re not sure how someone feels, it’s best to ask them directly.