Having trouble finding the perfect gift for your mom’s birthday?
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24 experts discussed the best birthday gifts for moms. Learn from their insights below.
Experiential Family Therapist
Moms really like it when you give them a mom-free day
They love being moms, but need relaxation alone time.
For instance, get your mom a limo or drive her to get a pedicure. Drive her back home. Take her through the drive-through. Let her sit in the passenger seat. Give her the full effect of a day off.
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Founder, Brilliant Transformations
Handwritten cards, letters, and notes
While store-bought cards are great (and appreciated), the sentiment is not the same as one that’s hand made.
These typically include a heartfelt message and acknowledges specific traits, instances, and efforts my son recognizes about me. I save and treasure these.
Experiences and quality time
Some material gifts are treasured, many others (like flowers) have an expiration date.
Spending time together and enjoying an experience together creates memories that last a lifetime (and beyond). I always took my mom for a manicure and pedicure on her birthday and we made a day of it.
Once, my son gave me a gift certificate for a massage. He also went the extra step to schedule it on my behalf. All I had to do was show up and get pampered. There’s nothing better than that.
Chief Communications & Strategy Officer, Community Health Charities
Most moms want the gift of time or an experience
What I’d enjoy is time to go shopping without the kids (and maybe shopping with a friend), or have lunch with or visit a friend – an actual girl friend as it’s hard to find time for friends when you work full-time and have a family and volunteer.
Another good idea is a Starbucks gift card to treat myself to coffee.
Time to relax is also good; someone else taking the kids and leaving me home alone to relax and take a nap!
Besides time, I also appreciate heartfelt or meaningful gifts connected with special interests of mine such as musicals/Broadway shows, Jane Austen, art, etc.
My mom got me theater tickets to see Pride and Prejudice which was great; my sister-in-law got me a shirt and cup that with quotes from Pride & Prejudice. My husband bought me my favorite childhood movie.
Some other moms I know like to go to the spa for the day, or have an expensive dinner at a fancy restaurant, or stay overnight or go on a road trip with girlfriends, etc.
I don’t really need to go that far and not sure I’d even enjoy it, and I don’t need gifts of stuff, as I can buy stuff myself.
Tell her how grateful you are for all she has done for you. Write down some of your special memories from childhood, or describe the qualities in her you most admire.
Write it out by hand – don’t worry if your handwriting isn’t the best.
What’s important is that you take the time to personally create the list. If you are lost for words and are looking for inspiration, add this list to a box that contains an Eternity Rose. She will never have received anything more valuable from you in her life.
Author, Find That Perfect Gift!
Whatever it is that a mom would really enjoy for her birthday, for sure it isn’t something that is clearly related to the fact that she is a mom or something that is actually for her child.
Do not offer a mom for her birthday a baby bottle sterilizer, parenting books or kitchen appliances unless she specifically asks for such a gift.
And even then you should add something that reminds her that she is a stylish or independent woman with hobbies and interests of her own.
A gift that a mom would surely appreciate would be an early dinner out to a nice restaurant with her husband, while somebody else took care of all the details of where will the kids be during that time.
Going to the movies, the theater or something similar is also a great idea, depending on her preferences.
If the kids are quite grown up, a mom would surely appreciate a photo album with a collection of family photos that stretch over the years. She could relive some of their best times together and enjoy a really thoughtful gift.
Any mom would also appreciate a fancy box of chocolates and some pretty flowers.
A pamper/spa voucher
All mums need that well deserved break away from the kids to relax and unwind! I recently received a spa voucher for a massage and was over the moon, looking after young children really takes a toll on your back, seriously!
This gift is more for mums who have younger children (speaking from experience – I have a 6 month old and a 2 year old. However all mums, I’m sure, would appreciate a day at the spa!
If your mum is a chocoholic like me then a chocolate hamper would be lovely!
This could be changed to fit whatever your mum likes best – sweet hamper, hamper of bath things, hamper of biscuits? Cheese hamper, wine hamper, the list is endless!
For mums that have children that are teenagers and older – personalised things are nice.
The small touches – personalized cards with meaningful messages, personalized photo books, or alternatively, instead of (3) you may want to use the following Forever flowers – I recently brought my mum a box of forever roses – they were made of foam and silk and looked so real! Absolutely stunning.
Director of Marketing, Drivers Choice Marketing
The mom in your life deserves to look stylish when she is running errands around town. Gift her a beautiful wrap to keep her comfortable and en vogue
A mom also deserves a night on the town or a girls’ weekend. The faux hide folder clutch is fashionable (and she doesn’t have to keep snacks or diapers in it.
A beautiful accent piece for her living room – or for those rare quiet nights with wine on the couch as she catches up on her reality tv.
Also from children, something endearing written on mug or ornament (My daughter gave me a mug – “If you weren’t my Mom, I’d have wanted you for my best friend.
Businesswoman | Blogger
A day at the spa
Since I’m always running around with my one year old or I’m busy working and running an online business I won’t do this for myself unless someone gets me a gift certificate.
I think it’s because I feel guilty knowing they paid for it and it’ll be a waste of their money if I don’t use it.
I think I’ve started drinking more coffee since becoming a mom a year ago. On one Christmas my mother in law got me a coffee club subscription and not only did I save on this necessity, but it was delivered to my door every month.
I’ve tried a couple since then and I’ve been really liking the coffee from Cafe Joe USA. There are hundreds of other coffee subscriptions that I’m sure everyone has a preference for.
Personally, I like the bolder coffee and they seem to do a pretty great job at making it.
A weekend getaway
It could even be a staycation. Just some time away from the normal day to day is so nice.
As a mom, it’s hard to take a break at home because there’s always something to do, wash, clean, cook, etc. So not having that around really forces you to take the break you need.
My children’s drawings are generally the type of gift I mostly love receiving. They put in the time and effort to make these beautiful pieces, so the value is not only in the artwork itself and in its message, but especially in the love and dedication my children have for me.
I’ve asked my children for special photos in the past: photos of them posing next to the toys I bought them and that I knew they loved so much, or photos of them wearing mama’s favorite clothing items.
There is something joyful and playful about this type of gift, they make good photos to frame and that the whole family can cherish for the years to come.
My children know mama loves reading!
So whether they find my favorite book at the used-books market or buy it new at the bookshop, it always makes such a wonderful gift and I’ll be found diving into it right away, curled up on the couch. Even better if my children write a dedication to me behind the cover.
CEO/ Self-Defense Instructor, Defense in Heels
Moms want something for themselves. They will never say it as they always put the kids or the family first.
Get them something like a massage, a spa day or even something like a bottle of wine, a book and you take the kids the kids for a few hours.
Pampering of some kind
A massage or facial appointment already made with childcare arranged would make me so happy as a birthday present! Already scheduled is key!
Most moms put themselves last and between the hassle of getting someone to watch the kids and finding a time that works, gift certificates wouldn’t get used.
Co-founder, Health and Fitness Travel
Every mom deserves a break, especially on their birthday — but not just any kind of break… what they need is now being dubbed as a ‘mumcation’, typically a two-day to a week’s worth of holidays spent with friends or even better, other mums who understand the need for me time.
Psychologists are in on this too. They say that mums should be taking regular ‘mumcations’ to recharge from the daily grind of motherhood.
For moms, self-care is essential, not as an indulgence, but a necessity to remove external noise, reduce stress, and become the best version they can be, whatever role or roles they have in life.
Founder, Nikki Williams
We know that Moms love handbags for their birthdays. Its a gift that just keeps giving.
Handbags are a thoughtful and personal gift that is also practical (Mom’s love something that they can use every day).
Giving a handbag to your Mom is a daily reminder to her that you love and care for her. It is also something that will last for years.
Author, Subconscious Power- Use Your Inner Mind to Create the Life You’ve Always Wanted
Self-care is a casualty of motherhood, more often than not.
Mothers are givers, rarely receivers, and luckily the self-care industry ranges from ‘make a little basket of face masks, massage oil and nail care items’ to giving mom a gift card at the nearest hotel spa or fitness facility.
The gift of ‘self-care’ for your mom shows her ‘you’ care.
When looking after our mom’s, the personalizing of a gift ‘for her’ and ‘about her’ is the most thoughtful.
Even a self-help or hobby book let’s her know that her interests, interest you.
If you really want to splurge, you can include her BFF for her day of beauty and relaxation so she can enjoy your gift with her friend.
Lunch out with a friend is another way to show you care about her needs of friendship.
Owner, How Fine Designs
Moms or Mums are all different, but the most important thing to consider is what are your Mother’s values?
Once your Mum has reached a certain stage in life she probably has had plenty of the usual scarves and bags, so I try to spoil my Mom with something I know she wouldn’t probably buy for herself.
Perhaps a lovely perfume or room fragrance that she would be reminded of something that I know would make her smile. A reminder of shared memory for example is priceless.
Another thing would be something I have made myself.
One year I went on a glass fusing workshop and made her a glass bowl, but I’ve also painted my Mum pictures or knitted her a handmade scarf.
Sometimes I’ve bought a pair of leather gloves in a bright colour; a beautiful gift for a winter birthday. Or taken her out to a spa. I’ve also given her one of my handmade silver heart necklaces, and given the same one to my sister as well, so whenever we wear them we feel connected, even though we are far apart geographically.
It’s really the thought behind a gift that matters most. It really doesn’t need to cost a lot to mean the world to your Mum, after all, you are one of the people who know her best, so perhaps try brainstorming a few of the things she really loves best.
Something that triggers a shared feeling or moment is always a great place to start. Think about how you want her to feel when you send your gift.
Packaging something small but beautiful is always going to make somebody feel special. Your Mum will know you’ve put in the effort to think of her. That’s a win already if you think about it!
Varda Meyers Epstein
Parenting Expert | Editor, Kars4Kids Smarter Parenting blog
As a mom of 12, I can tell you that I dream about spa treatments or even some nice toiletries.
A relative once treated me to a spa day after surviving breast cancer treatment in thanks for my support, and it was the best gift I ever received.
If my kids were to give me a similar gift it would be extremely meaningful to me. A way to pamper mom for all her hard work.
I gave my mom a massage package for her 91st birthday and she enjoyed it so much! It relieved her swollen ankles, too. It’s a wonderful way to say “I love you.”
Owner / CEO, TLC Cleaning LLC
I am a mom of 3 kids and I can tell you more than anything what I want.
Moms want someone to take the weight off their shoulders, even if only for a day. Moms want more time to snuggle with their kids and take a hot bath. Moms want the laundry to fold its self and the floors to always stay clean.
I truly think one of the most valuable gifts we can give moms is more time back in their life. And that’s why I think the best gift is a cleaning service.
Chief Mommy, MommyGo
What moms like for their birthday is to uninterrupted quality time: with their families and friends, their dreams, and themselves.
Texas Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
The gift of your time! Spending time together going to a local event or out to dinner or helping with a project around the house.
Digital Content Creator , TheMomTrotter
What Moms want for their birthday is similar to what they want for Mother’s day.
- breakfast in bed or a treat to a nice breakfast
- a full massage and spa day
- absolutely no chores whatsoever
Most important thing is, Moms want their birthdays remembered. They are happy with anything that comes their way. Just don’t forget their birthday.
Professional Artist | Owner of The Plein-Air Art Academy
As a mother of 3, I think the best gifts for a mom are those that would give her some time to relax, offer some self-nourishing such as massages, a yoga retreat, a night out for dinner, or a fun hobby.
If she’s design savvy and loves to entertain, then anything from fun kitchen gadgets to antique vases and paintings would be perfect, something that would remind her of you and your time together.