Personal Growth

What Would You Tell Your Younger Self? (53 Things + Expert Insights)

By Jahrine Okutsu
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Have you ever thought, “If only I knew then what I know now?” Yeah, me too.

Life’s a journey full of ups and downs, and along the way, we pick up some valuable lessons. Each of us has learned so much since we took our first steps into the big, wide world.

This article is like a letter to our younger selves, filled with the kind of advice we wish we’d heard earlier. Join me as I share these life tips. You might just find something that speaks to you—a reminder or a new idea that can make today brighter.

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Believe in Yourself and Your Abilities

If I could whisper a tip to the younger me, it’d be simple: “Trust yourself.” You’re brimming with talents waiting to shine. Doubt will pop up, sure, but it’s just a sign to push harder.

Start by acknowledging your past wins—no matter how small—and remind yourself, “I’ve done great things before, I can do them again.” This belief is your backbone, supporting you as you dive into life’s challenges.

"You really are going to be ok, once you figure out what 'ok' means. There's no place of safety that you reach. You're either safe in your own skin wherever you are, or you're not safe anywhere."

— Adam Cole |Musician | Author

Prioritize Your Mental and Physical Health

Your well-being is non-negotiable. It’s like a garden; tend to it, and you’ll flourish. Neglect it, and you’ll struggle to bloom.

Here’s a simple starting point:

  • Mental Well-being: Find activities that calm your mind. Could be meditation, reading, or a hearty chat with friends.
  • Physical Health: Keep moving. Dance in your living room, take brisk walks, choose stairs over the elevator. Fuel your body with foods that nourish and energize you.

Healthy body, healthy mind—it’s a package deal. Taking care of one empowers the other, boosting your self-belief along the way.

"When I was in my 20s, I did not think 2 seconds about 'exercising'. I had endless energy... Yet by the time I’d hit my 40s, I’d gained more than 20 pounds... Now at 60, having developed a significant exercise habit, I can only imagine how much easier it would have been to get one in my 40s when I needed it if I’d already understood what it meant to exercise."

— Carolee Belkin Walker | Public Affairs Specialist | Freelance Wellness Journalist

Pursue Your Passions Fearlessly

Your passions are your North Star. Following them might seem scary, but that’s the exciting part! It’s about taking the leap—start with baby steps.

Transform your hobby into a weekend project, dedicate time to learn something new related to it, and share your passion with friends or online communities.

Each small action is a step towards a life where Monday mornings feel as exciting as Friday evenings. Don’t let fear hold you back. Remember, every expert started as a beginner.

"Hello younger self, I understand you have a goal of starting a business before you are 35 years old. My advice to you is, do not wait that long to start your business."

— Vid Lamonte' Buggs Jr |Founder and Owner,  VLB/VBJ Enterprises, LLC and 4-U-Nique Publishing

Develop a Growth Mindset

Embrace challenges—they’re your stepping stones. Having a growth mindset means accepting that you’re a work in progress. Smart isn’t just something you are; it’s something you become.

So when you hit a wall, don’t turn around; climb it. See errors as lessons, not failures. Persistence pays off, so keep stretching those mental muscles. Each time you push past your limit, you’re expanding your horizon.

Invest in Continuous Learning and Personal Development

Never stop learning. The world is constantly changing, and staying curious is your ticket to keeping up and pushing forward.

Here’s how to weave learning into your daily life:

  • Read every day: Books, articles, anything that piques your interest.
  • Take online courses: There are courses online for almost everything nowadays.
  • Learn from others: Surround yourself with people you can learn from.

This isn’t just about professional development but personal growth too. It keeps your brain active, your perspectives fresh, and your skills sharp.

Embrace Your Unique Qualities

Your unique qualities are your superpowers. Too often, we fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others, overlooking our own incredible talents and traits.

Here’s a little secret: what makes you different is what makes you special. It’s about embracing your quirks, owning your story, and letting your true self shine. After all, there’s only one you in this vast, beautiful world, and that’s your strength, not a weakness.

So, love your weirdness; it’s the heart of your charm.

"I would tell my younger self to hang on to every bit of a dream that comes from deep within yourself because that inner voice within you is the voice you never want to lose."

— Elizabeth Melendez Fisher | CEO and Co-Founder, Selah Freedom

Stay True to Your Values and Principles

Your values are your compass in life’s journey. They help navigate through tough choices and stand firm where it counts. Life will throw curveballs, testing your core beliefs. It’s in those moments you’ve got to hold tight to your principles.

They define who you are and direct where you’re going. You might be tempted to stray for short-term wins, but long-term fulfillment comes from staying true to yourself. Your values are non-negotiable; they’re your signature in the world.

Cultivate Meaningful Relationships

In this digitally connected world, genuine connections are more valuable than ever. Meaningful relationships – those that are deep, authentic, and supportive – are a cornerstone of a happy life.

Here’s how to cultivate them:

  • Be present: In conversations, give your full attention. Listen to understand, not just to respond.
  • Show appreciation: Let people know you value them. A simple “thank you” can mean a lot.
  • Be open and honest: Honesty fosters trust and deeper connections.

The time and effort you invest in your relationships will pay back in countless ways, making life richer and more enjoyable.

Practice Self-Love and Self-Care

Treat yourself with the kindness you offer to others. Self-love isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so fill yours up.

It’s about:

  • Setting aside time for things you enjoy.
  • Saying no when you need to recharge.
  • Forgiving yourself for not being perfect.

Prioritize self-care rituals that keep you balanced and grounded. Love yourself for who you are, where you’re at, and where you’re going. Only then can you truly thrive.

Trust Your Instincts and Intuition

Listen to your intuition. More often than you’d think, your gut feelings are spot on. When something feels off or incredibly right, trust that internal nudge. It’s a collection of your experiences and wisdom talking, even if it doesn’t hand you the reasoning on a silver platter.

Your intuition is a unique blend of your experiences, wisdom, and subconscious. Trusting it can lead you to choices that align closely with your true self.

Don’t Be Afraid to Take Risks

Risks aren’t just for thrill-seekers—they’re for dream-chasers. Stepping out of your comfort zone and taking risks is essential for growth and achieving great things. Yes, it’s scary—not knowing how things will turn out can be daunting.

But consider this: every significant achievement in history came from someone taking a risk.

Here’s why taking chances can be a game-changer:

  • Growth: You’ll never know your full potential unless you push beyond your limits.
  • Opportunities: Many opportunities only come to those who are willing to take leaps of faith.
  • Learning: Even if things don’t go as planned, there’s valuable learning in the experience.

Remember, not all risks are created equal. Calculate your moves by weighing the potential benefits against what you can afford to lose.

Learn to Forgive Yourself and Others

Holding onto grudges or regret weighs you down. Forgiveness is the magic eraser that creates space for peace. Mistakes? You’ll make them, and that’s okay. When you do, forgive yourself and turn those oops moments into aha ones.

And when others falter, show them the same grace. By letting go of hard feelings, both towards yourself and others, you’ll walk lighter and breathe easier. It’s about moving forward without the extra baggage.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

In a world fueled by social media, it’s easy to fall into the comparison trap, measuring your life against the highlight reels of others. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on your journey, your achievements, and your growth.

Each person’s path is unique—embrace yours with all its ups and downs. Celebrating your own milestones and learning from your setbacks allows you to grow in ways that comparing yourself to others simply cannot.

Practice Gratitude Daily

Start and end your day with a thank you. Gratitude turns what we have into enough. Incorporating a daily practice of gratitude into your life can shift your perspective, enhance your mood, and even open up new opportunities.

Here’s a simple way to get started:

  1. Morning gratitude: Start your day by listing three things you’re thankful for. They can be as simple as a good cup of coffee or the sunshine outside your window.
  2. Gratitude reminders: Set reminders on your phone to pause and appreciate the moment, no matter where you are or what you’re doing.
  3. Gratitude journal: Before bed, jot down three good things that happened during your day. This can help end your day on a positive note.

By consistently practicing gratitude, you cultivate a more positive outlook on life, making it easier to handle challenges as they arise.

Don’t Let Fear Hold You Back From Trying New Things

Fear is a natural part of the unknown, but don’t let it freeze you. When curiosity knocks, open the door. Trying new things can enrich your life, bring fun and excitement, and lead to unexpected opportunities.

Overcoming this fear starts with small steps:

  • Identify what scares you: Pinpoint the fears holding you back.
  • Take small steps: Start with something manageable. Interested in art? Sign up for a beginner’s class.
  • Celebrate your courage: Each time you face a fear, no matter the outcome, celebrate your bravery.

Fear is a part of the process, but it doesn’t define your limits unless you allow it to.

Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re filters. They safeguard your time, energy, and well-being. It’s about knowing your limits and communicating them clearly.

Here’s how to start:

  • Define what is okay and what’s not for you personally and professionally.
  • Communicate clearly and confidently—no need to over-explain your ‘no’.
  • Respect others’ boundaries as you’d want yours respected.

Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect. It helps you thrive in both solitude and society.

Embrace Change and Adaptability

To my younger self: The only constant is change. Embrace it like an old friend, not a foe. Change means growth, new opportunities, and new adventures. Staying adaptable is key.

Life will twist and turn in unexpected ways, and flexibility allows you to ride the waves, not get swept away by them. Embracing change leads to resilience, and resilience opens the door to a life lived fully without holding back.

Be like water—flow with the changes and find your path around any obstacle.

Practice Effective Communication Skills

Communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity. Enhancing your communication skills can improve your relationships and your chances of success at work and in life.

Here are some key components to effective communication:

  • Listen actively: Pay attention to what the other person is saying without planning your response while they speak.
  • Be clear and concise: Convey your messages in as straightforward a manner as possible to avoid misunderstandings.
  • Show empathy: Understanding and acknowledging others’ feelings can significantly improve the quality of your interactions.

Remember, good communication is a two-way street that involves speaking clearly and listening well.

Develop Financial Literacy and Responsibility

Understanding your finances is like having a roadmap for your future. Developing financial literacy can seem daunting, but it’s about building knowledge bit by bit. Start by tracking your spending to see where your money goes.

Learn to create a budget that accommodates saving for your goals, whether it’s travel, education, or retirement. Also, educate yourself about investments and how they can work for you over time.

Financial responsibility isn’t about deprivation; it’s about making informed choices that align with your long-term objectives.

Cultivate Resilience in the Face of Adversity

Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.

Resilience is about bouncing back from setbacks stronger than before. Life will inevitably throw challenges your way, but your reaction to these challenges defines your journey. Here are some ways to build resilience:

  • Acceptance: Recognize that challenges and setbacks are part of life.
  • Perspective: Try to view obstacles as opportunities to learn rather than insurmountable problems.
  • Support: Lean on friends, family, or professionals who can provide encouragement and guidance.

Each challenge is a stepping stone, making you more resilient and determined.

Prioritize Experiences Over Material Possessions

In the pursuit of happiness, experiences trump material goods every time.

Here’s why:

  • Memories last: Long after the initial thrill of a new purchase fades, the joy from experiences can bring happiness for years to come.
  • Connections: Shared experiences can strengthen relationships in ways possessions never could.
  • Growth: New experiences challenge you and foster personal growth.

So, next time you’re about to make a purchase, ask yourself if it will enrich your life in a meaningful way. More often than not, you’ll find that experiences—travel, learning a new skill, spending time with loved ones—offer value that material possessions cannot.

Learn to Let Go of Things You Can’t Control

Worrying about things beyond your control drains your energy and keeps you from focusing on what you can influence.

Here’s how to let go:

  • Identify what’s in your control: Make a list of your concerns and categorize them into things you can and cannot control.
  • Focus on actionable steps: For the things you can influence, outline steps you can take to impact the outcome positively.
  • Practice acceptance: For those beyond your control, practice accepting them as they are. This doesn’t mean giving up but rather choosing where to direct your energy more effectively.

Embracing this approach not only brings peace but also empowers you to make meaningful changes where you can.

Embrace Failure as a Stepping Stone to Success

Don’t fear failure—embrace it. It’s not the opposite of success; it’s part of it. Each stumble uncovers a lesson that success alone couldn’t teach.

Here’s what you gain from failure:

  • Resilience: Get up faster each time you fall.
  • Insight: Every blunder is a map to do better.
  • Opportunity: New doors often open in unexpected places.

Viewing failure as a stepping stone rather than a roadblock is key to achieving lasting success.

Practice Mindfulness and Live in the Present Moment

Younger self, ever caught in the ‘what ifs‘ and ‘one days‘, try this: live now.

Mindfulness isn’t just a buzzword; it’s about truly experiencing the present. Observe the world with wonder—smell the rain, taste each bite, listen to the silence.

Let go of the past’s weight and the future’s anxiety by:

  • Taking five minutes to just breathe and be.
  • Noticing the small joys and simple pleasures of today.
  • Being fully with the people around you, without distractions.

Living in the now is the gift that keeps on giving. It makes life vivid and real.

Nurture Your Creativity and Self-Expression

Creativity isn’t just for artists; it’s a spark that lives within all of us, waiting to be fanned into flame.

Here’s how to keep that creative fire burning:

  • Find time for creative activities you enjoy, whether it’s writing, painting, coding, gardening, or anything else that lets you express yourself.
  • Seek inspiration by trying new experiences, meeting new people, and exploring unfamiliar places.
  • Create without judgment. Remind yourself that the process is more important than the outcome. Enjoy the act of creation for its own sake.

Allowing room for creativity and self-expression in your life can lead to surprising discoveries about yourself and the world around you.

"Today, I work at one of the nation’s top nursing homes and senior healthcare agencies as a PR Media Specialist, and I get to write all the time, interviewing amazing seniors as old as 108, and photographing daily life here on campus as well."

— Sherry Gavanditti | Owner, Blitz Public Relations | Public Relations Media Specialist, Menorah Park

Seek Out Mentors and Learn From Their Experiences

Having mentors is like having personal guidebooks for different aspects of life. They’ve been where you are and can share insights and advice that might take you years to learn on your own.

  • How to find a mentor: Look for people whose values align with yours and who have achieved goals similar to your aspirations. This can be in your professional field, a hobby, or any other area of personal growth.
  • Engage respectfully: When approaching potential mentors, be respectful of their time and clear about what guidance you seek.
  • Be open to feedback: A good mentor will challenge you and provide honest feedback. Be open to it, even if it’s tough to hear.

Learning from those who’ve already walked the path can accelerate your growth and help you avoid common pitfalls.

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help When You Need It

To the independent youngster I was, understand that there’s no shame in asking for help. It does not indicate weakness but rather humanity, showing we flourish in communities rather than in isolation.

Remember, when you’re facing difficulties, it’s perfectly okay to seek assistance. Whether you find yourself lost or struggling with a challenge, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Seeking assistance with sincerity is always met with respect.

More often than not, help brings additional hands and ideas, making it easier to overcome obstacles. Learning from others can serve as a valuable shortcut to achieving success.

Remember, asking for help is a smart strategy, not a sign of defeat.

Remember That Life Is a Journey, Not a Destination

It’s easy to get caught up in chasing milestones, forgetting that the real beauty of life lies in the journey itself. Appreciate the present moment. Instead of always looking ahead to the next thing, take time to enjoy where you are right now.

Learn from every experience. Both successes and failures have valuable lessons to offer if you’re willing to listen. Understand that change is part of the journey. As you grow and evolve, so will your goals and dreams.

Be Kind to Yourself and Practice Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is about treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d offer to a good friend. It’s recognizing that you’re doing your best, even when things don’t go as planned.

Here’s how to cultivate self-compassion:

  • Speak to yourself kindly. Next time you find yourself in a tough spot or make a mistake, talk to yourself with kindness and understanding.
  • Recognize that you’re not alone in your struggles. Everyone faces challenges and setbacks—it’s part of being human.
  • Allow yourself to make mistakes. They’re not failures but opportunities to learn and grow.

Being kind to yourself not only improves your mental well-being but also helps you bounce back stronger from life’s challenges.

Take Advantage of the Opportunities in Front of You

Seize the chances life presents. Opportunities often come dressed in work clothes or disguised as obstacles. Keep your eyes open for them, and when they show up, grab them with both hands.

Remember:

  • A “yes” can open doors to uncharted adventures.
  • Each opportunity is a chance to grow, even if it doesn’t work out.
  • The right moment is often now, so don’t wait for perfection.

Take that class, apply for that job, join that club—every “yes” is a brushstroke on your life’s canvas.

Build Your Career Around Your Life, Not the Other Way Around

To my career-focused younger self, remember to structure your work around what makes you feel alive. Your career should fit into your life, not consume it. Sometimes, ambition can lead you down a path where work is all there is, but life’s about balance.

Enjoy your hobbies, make time for loved ones, and indulge in rest. Work is a part of life; it’s not the entirety of it. Make sure you’re living, not just earning a living. Your career should add to your life, not consume it.

By aligning your work with your personal goals and values, you can create a harmonious and fulfilling life.

Say Yes More Often, and Say No More Often

Become a master of ‘Yes’ and ‘No’. Knowing when to dive in or step back is an art.

Say yes to:

  • New experiences that align with your interests or goals.
  • Opportunities that scare you a little but promise growth.

Say no to:

  • Commitments that drain your energy or go against your values.
  • Activities that overcrowd your schedule, leaving no room for self-care or personal projects.

Learning when to say yes and when to say no helps manage your energy and time effectively, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Have a Support System

Life’s a team sport. Cultivate a support network to cheer you on and stand by you. This includes family, friends, mentors, and even colleagues.

These are the folks who’ll give you a pep talk when you’re down, celebrate your wins, and offer a different perspective when you’re stuck.

Life’s hurdles are easier when you have a squadron on your side. Harness the power of your community, and remember to play your part in theirs, too—it’s a two-way street.

Learn How to Make Decisions

Making decisions, big or small, shapes the course of your life. Here’s how to hone your decision-making skills:

  • Gather all necessary information before making a decision. Understanding the context helps you weigh your options more accurately.
  • Trust your intuition. Sometimes, your gut feeling can guide you to the right choice.
  • Accept that no decision is perfect. Each choice leads to new opportunities and lessons, regardless of the outcome.

Improving your decision-making process involves patience, practice, and the understanding that mistakes are valuable learning opportunities.

Find a Mentor, and Don’t Settle

Having a mentor can significantly impact your personal and professional growth. A mentor provides guidance, advice, and support to help you navigate challenges and work towards your goals.

To find a mentor, seek someone whose career or life achievements inspire you. This could be within your professional network, social circles, or even someone you admire from afar.

Once you have found a potential mentor, be proactive in your mentorship. Communicate your goals, ask questions, and absorb as much wisdom as you can. It’s essential not to settle for a mentorship that doesn’t challenge you.

The right mentor will push you out of your comfort zone and encourage your growth.

A mentor not only offers guidance but also helps you envision and work towards a version of success that resonates with your aspirations. Never settle for less than what you’re capable of achieving.

Your Health Is More Important Than Money

In the pursuit of success and financial stability, it’s crucial not to overlook your health.

Here’s why prioritizing your health over financial gains is essential:

  • Long-term well-being: Money can be earned and lost, but once your health is compromised, it’s often difficult—and sometimes impossible—to fully regain.
  • Quality of life: Being financially successful loses its allure if you’re not healthy enough to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
  • Prevention is better (and often cheaper) than cure: Investing time and resources into maintaining your health can prevent costly medical expenses down the line.

Remember, your greatest wealth is your health. Balancing ambition with wellness ensures you can enjoy your achievements for years to come.

Live With No Expectations

Living with no expectations allows you to embrace life as it comes, reducing disappointment and making room for pleasant surprises. To adopt this mindset, focus on the process rather than the outcome, enjoying what you’re doing at the moment without fixating on how things should end.

By practicing gratitude and appreciating what you have now, it becomes easier to accept whatever comes your way. Staying open to possibilities is key, as, without fixed expectations, you’re more likely to notice and seize unexpected opportunities that arise.

Adopting this approach can lead to a more fulfilling and stress-free life.

Get to Know Your Elders

Your elders are libraries of living history. Get to know them—you’ll be surprised at the lessons they share. Their stories are a free ticket to the past, with insights into resilience, love, and adaptability.

Plus, here’s what you gain:

  • Perspective that spans generations.
  • Wisdom distilled from decades of experience.
  • A sense of continuity and understanding of your own roots.

Spend time with them, and ask about their youth, their challenges, and triumphs. Their narratives are treasures worth more than gold.

Own Your Truth

Owning your truth means acknowledging your feelings, beliefs, and values and standing by them, even when it’s uncomfortable. It involves living authentically and making choices that align with your true self rather than conforming to others’ expectations.

By accepting yourself fully, including your strengths and vulnerabilities, you can embody your truth in all aspects of life. Owning your truth is empowering, as it builds self-respect and invites authenticity into your relationships. Remember, there’s unparalleled power in being genuinely you.

"OWN YOUR TRUTH. Express how you feel... OWN where those feelings come from. OWN the past mistakes, hurts, and most of all LESSONS that comes with it."

— Shanda Domango Brown | Personal Trainer | Fitness Instructor

Let Go of Shame

Shame can be a heavy burden, often keeping us from living our lives to the fullest. Releasing shame involves:

  • Understanding its origin: Reflect on what causes your feelings of shame. Often, it’s rooted in past experiences or societal expectations.
  • Practicing self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a friend.
  • Sharing your story: Opening up to trusted individuals can be incredibly healing. You’ll likely find that you’re not alone.

Letting go of shame frees you to live more authentically and embrace your true self without fear of judgment.

Be Open to Miracles

A little faith can go a long way: believe in life’s magic. Miracles aren’t always grand; sometimes, they are in the small, unexpected good fortunes and in the right help arriving at just the right time.

Keep your eyes and heart open to the wonder that surrounds you. It’s there—in the kindness of strangers, the bloom of a flower in concrete, or the perfect timing of a chance encounter. Life can surprise and delight if you allow it to unfold and show its wonders.

It’s the Life Experiences That Move You Along in Your Journey

Remember that the heart of your journey is not just in the big moments but also in the everyday experiences. The morning coffee, the laughter with friends, the quiet times of thinking—they all move you forward, shape you, and teach you.

These experiences, both big and small, planned and unexpected, build your character, sharpen your thoughts, and make your life richer. They are the stories you’ll tell and the memories you’ll treasure; they are the life you’ll look back on and know you truly lived.

Remember to Laugh

Never underestimate the power of laughter. It’s the music of the soul. Even on your grimmest days, find a reason to chuckle. Laughter lightens your load, brings people together, and even the serious stuff seems more manageable with a grin.

So, watch that goofy movie, recount embarrassing tales with a smile, or just giggle at the absurdity of life. It’s a natural reset button that keeps you sane.

Take Your Time Making Big Decisions

Here’s a gentle reminder: slow down when it comes to the big stuff.

Big decisions shape big chunks of your future, so they deserve time and thoughtfulness. Sleep on it, chat it through, list the pros and cons—whatever helps you see clearly.

Patience in decision-making is a form of self-respect. It means you value your future enough to give it the consideration it merits.

Your Path May Take a Wandering Route

It’s perfectly normal for your life path to meander, taking unexpected turns and detours.

This journey is:

  • A learning opportunity: Each twist and turn offers lessons that contribute to your growth.
  • An adventure: Embracing the unpredictability of life can make the journey more exciting and fulfilling.
  • Unique to you: Your wandering route is uniquely yours, shaped by your choices, experiences, and dreams.

Remember, a straight path isn’t necessarily the most interesting or rewarding one. Embrace the journey, with all its wanderings, as part of your personal growth and discovery.

Sometimes You Gotta Fail in Order to Succeed

Embrace your failures as much as your successes. Those falls? They’re teaching you tenacity, sharpening your skills, and leading you to a path better suited for the unique individual you are.

Failing is just part of the narrative of success, often the part that teaches you the most. So, when you trip up, dust off, and view each fail simply as a precursor to your future victory lap.

Always Remember – DHPPR

Determination, Hard Work, Perseverance, Persistence, and Resilience.

Etch these letters into your mindset: DHPPR. When goals seem distant, and challenges loom large, let determination be your engine, hard work your fuel. Persevere when the peak seems unreachable, persist when progress feels slow, and bounce back with resilience when setbacks knock you down.

This combo is your toolkit for life, the ingredients for achievement. Where talent falls short, these qualities bridge the gap towards success.

Volunteer to Serve Your Community

Step outside yourself and give back. Volunteering offers perspective, connects you to others, and roots you in the reality of the world around you. It’s a chance to contribute, to make a difference, even in the smallest way.

The act of serving feeds not just your community but your soul, too. It reminds you of the interconnectedness of life, the joy of helping, and the satisfaction that comes from being part of something greater than yourself.

Rejection Is Sometimes Redirection

Rejection, though often painful, isn’t necessarily a dead-end; it can be a detour pointing you toward a path better suited for you. This concept is particularly evident in stories of successful individuals who faced rejection early in their careers only to find greater opportunities elsewhere.

Rejection forces us to reevaluate our direction, often leading us to discover alternatives we hadn’t considered. It’s a reminder that sometimes, the universe has a different plan in store for us, and what we perceive as setbacks are actually steps towards something more aligned with our true calling.

You Are Stronger Than You Know

Each person harbors an inner strength that often goes unrecognized until it’s called upon in times of challenge.

This strength can manifest in various ways:

  • The resilience to overcome personal adversity.
  • The determination to pursue goals despite obstacles.
  • The courage to stand up for oneself or others in difficult situations.

Cultivating awareness of your inner strength involves reflecting on past challenges you’ve overcome and recognizing the qualities that helped you navigate those situations. It’s also about pushing your boundaries, trying new things, and stepping outside your comfort zone to discover capabilities you weren’t aware of.

By fostering this awareness, you can empower yourself to face life’s challenges with confidence, knowing you have a wellspring of strength to draw upon.

Tell the People You Love That You Love Them

Expressing love and appreciation to those we care about is crucial for nurturing and maintaining strong, healthy relationships.

Here’s why it’s important:

  • Strengthens bonds: Heartfelt expressions of love reinforce the emotional connections between people, building stronger, more resilient relationships.
  • Enhances well-being: Giving and receiving expressions of love boosts happiness and well-being for both the giver and the recipient.
  • Leaves no regrets: Life is unpredictable. Regularly telling loved ones how much they mean to you ensures you don’t leave important things unsaid.

Simple acts, such as saying “I love you“, writing a thoughtful note, or showing kindness and support, can make a significant impact. Making a habit of expressing your love ensures that those you care about know their value in your life.

Surround Yourself With Positive Influences

The company we keep can shape our thoughts, actions, and even our outlook on life. Like plants thriving in a nourishing environment, our growth is influenced by the positivity around us.

When we choose to surround ourselves with positive people—those who inspire, encourage, and support us—we’re more likely to adopt an optimistic perspective and strive toward our goals.

This doesn’t mean seeking out those who are cheerful all the time but rather those who approach life’s ups and downs with hope and determination. Positivity is contagious; it can transform our mindset and help us overcome hurdles we might otherwise view as insurmountable.

Remember That Life Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint

In an age of instant gratification, it’s important to remember that life’s greatest achievements often require long-term effort and patience. Just as a marathon runner paces themselves, conserving energy for the entire race, we must pace our endeavors in life.

The pursuit of quick wins can lead to burnout and a feeling of emptiness when the fleeting high wears off. Embracing life as a marathon means valuing endurance, learning from each phase, and understanding that some rewards take time to materialize.

This perspective encourages us to stay the course, rest when needed, and cherish each stride on the long road to our aspirations.

More Expert Insights

“Being a doctor is what you do, not who you are… I think if I had known that earlier, I probably would have shifted career paths earlier and pursued my true passion at least 10 years before I actually did.”

— Maiysha T. Clairborne, MD | Family Physician | Business and Entrepreneurship Coach

“As soon as you start your first job begin a Daily Legacy Journal that sets forth what you want your legacy to be when you leave your new position in 3 years. Then, using reverse engineering, develop an Action Plan, with specific Action Steps and Quarterly Milestones that will allow you to reach your Legacy Outcome.”

— Paul Glover | Principle Partner, Paul Glover Coaching

“Never carry a secret because the worst things build out of secret. There is a saying, ‘That which happens in the dark, stays in the dark and continues to grow, but once it comes into the light, it ceases.’ This is so true!”

— Elizabeth Melendez Fisher | CEO and Co-Founder, Selah Freedom

“I would tell my younger self to live life day by day. Don’t overthink anything. Make conscious decisions, but if something changes unexpectedly, don’t panic.”

— Melanie Oates | Blogger

“If I had the chance, I would tell my younger self to find and head into highly relevant and vibrant communities in my neighborhood and online to connect, engage and build a relationship with the fellow entrepreneurs.”

— Syed Farhan Raza | Founder, SFR Digital

“I would tell my younger self to read, Power Vs. Force by Dr. David Hawkins, and practice unconditional love.”

— Ky Trang Ho | Business and Investment Writer | PR consultant | Owner, Key Financial Media LLC

Final Thoughts

It’s comforting to know that everyone has something they’d tell their younger self, which means we’re all together in this journey of learning.

So, let’s not worry about the past. Instead, let’s use what we’ve learned to make our today and tomorrow better. It’s all about moving forward, taking each day as it comes, and being gentle with ourselves. After all, every day is a chance to be the person we’ve always wanted to be.

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Jahrine Okutsu

Jahrine Okutsu believes that words are powerful tools for connecting people. Driven by this conviction, she earned a degree in Communication and now applies this principle daily in her role as a committed writer and editor.

In her downtime, she finds delight in the simple pleasures of life—watching movies, playing horror games, and sipping on a warm cup of coffee. She sometimes gets lost in daydreams, letting her imagination wander, while at other times, she finds focus and peace through spiritual practices. Her dog, Zoey, brings an extra layer of joy and fulfillment to her life.