Do you remember that horrible day when your first or second-grade teacher asked you to read aloud? …Yeah…that day!
I don’t remember exactly when that happened, but I do remember exactly what I said and thought.
Instead of reading, I asked questions “Why do I have to do that? The rest of the class do not know how to read? Don’t they have the same book in front?”
Needless to say that no matter how much I protested to perform that useless act, in the end, I had to comply… I was a child.
However, that cost me dearly. To this day, reading aloud is something I dread doing; not because I don’t know how to read, but because always feels like a test.
Our society is pushing us, more and more, to change who we are; if you’re an introvert…“how dare you to be quiet in a loud world?”
Most introverts are seen as rebels because refuse to comply with things that don’t make sense to us.
If you’re an introvert, do you see the point of becoming famous? Especially being famous for being famous? Most probably not.
That doesn’t happen because you’re too shy to be in the spotlight, but because you don’t see the point of it. Is it not?
Introverts are not a minority; studies show they are almost half of the population.
Then, how come being an introvert is viewed as something negative? How come you’re asked to change? How come you’re not allowed to love and accept yourself as you are?
The introverts have a significant contribution to a better society. Introverts are:
- Active listeners
… And some more
Therefore, don’t change who you are, but become self-disciplined to use being an introvert to make a difference in the world, fearless and deliberately.
You’ll find in this article, the best books for introverts that can help you take advantage of who you are, make your life better, know yourself better.
You’ll not find in this list, books about how to overcome being an introvert because it’s not something you should overcome but celebrate.
Understanding Yourself Better
If you too feel that your environment is asking you to change your nature (being an introvert), the following books can be an eye-opener into the reasons why you are enough as you are, being an introvert can be an advantage, and why you might be (as an introvert) a sunshine for those around you.
Understand yourself better by reading (one or more) following books. These books will change your mind and help you give yourself permission to embrace being an introvert.
Table of Contents
- 1. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking - Susan Cain
- 2. The Introvert's Edge: How the Quiet and Shy Can Outsell Anyone - Matthew Pollard, Derek Lewis
- 3. The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World - Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D.
- 4. The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World (Perigee Book) - Sophia Dembling
- 5. The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World - Jenn Granneman, Adrianne Lee
- 6. Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength - Laurie Helgoe Ph.D.
- 7. The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms - Beth Buelow
- 8. Self-Promotion for Introverts: The Quiet Guide to Getting Ahead - Nancy Ancowitz
- 9. Networking for People Who Hate Networking: A Field Guide for Introverts, the Overwhelmed, and the Underconnected - Devora Zack
- 10. The Genius of Opposites: How Introverts and Extroverts Achieve Extraordinary Results Together - Jennifer B. Kahnweiler
- 11. Introvert Survival Tactics: How to Make Friends, Be More Social, and Be Comfortable In Any Situation (When You’re People’d Out and Just Want to Go Home And Watch TV Alone) - Patrick King
- 12. Predictably Irrational, Revised and Expanded Edition: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions - Dr. Dan Ariely
- 13. The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias - Dolly Chugh, Laszlo Bock
- 14. Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong - Eric Barker
- 15. Be the Magic of You: Tools to Transform Your Life! - Teri Karjala, Jack Canfield
- 16. Braving the Wilderness: The quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone - Brene Brown
- 17. An Anthropologist On Mars: Seven Paradoxical Tales - Oliver Sacks
- 18. Look: A Practical Guide for Improving Your Observational Skills - James H. Gilmore
- 19. Think Like Sherlock: Creatively Solve Problems, Think with Clarity, Make Insightful Observations & Deductions, and Develop Quick & Accurate Instincts - Peter Hollins
- 20. Overcoming Shyness: Break Out of Your Shell and Express Your True Self - Erik Myers
- 21. Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life - Cynthia Kim
- 22. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 - Travis Bradberry, Jean Greaves, Patrick M. Lencioni
- 23. Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently - John C. Maxwell
- 24. The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork: Embrace Them and Empower Your Team - John C. Maxwell
- 25. How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships - Leil Lowndes
- 26. Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging - Sebastian Junger
- 27. Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results - Stephen Guise
- 28. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success - Carol S. Dweck
- 29. David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants - Malcolm Gladwell
- 30. The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference - Malcolm Gladwell
- 31. Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World - Christine Fonseca
- 32. Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverted Kids - Susan Cain, Gregory Mone, Erica Moroz, Grant Snider
“The highly sensitive [introverted] tend to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than materialistic or hedonistic.
They dislike small talk.
They often describe themselves as creative or intuitive.
They dream vividly, and can often recall their dreams the next day.
They love music, nature, art, physical beauty.
They feel exceptionally strong emotions (sometimes acute bouts of joy, but also sorrow, melancholy, and fear).
Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments (both physical and emotional) unusually deeply.
They tend to notice subtleties that others miss (another person’s shift in mood, say, or a lightbulb burning a touch too brightly).” Susan Cain
“Words for Introverts to Live By
Appreciate your inside world
Stay in harmony
Revel in solitude
Remember, let your light shine” Marti Olsen Laney
“It’s not that introverts aren’t good team players. We just don’t need to be in the same room as the rest of the team at all times.
We would much prefer to have part of the project carved out for us to squirrel away with it in our offices, consulting as necessary but working independently.” Sophia Dembling
“You don’t have to transform yourself into an extrovert to succeed in life or work.
As an introvert, what works for you on the job is going to be different from what works for an extrovert – and that’s okay. Give yourself permission to do things that play to your introvert strengths and needs. You can be dazzling in your own quiet way.” Jenn Granneman
“As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy.
The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves.” Laurie Helgoe
“Building points of connectivity with others is a critical component of successful networking.
Discovering links of commonality with others sharpens our receptivity to maintaining connections.
Introverts’ ability to focus and ask well-formed questions means an innate ability to forge real connections. Conversations go deeper, catapulting relationships into a new dimension.” Devora Zack
The power of observation
Wisdom comes mainly from observation. As an introvert, most likely, you are a master observer.
The following books can help you improve your power of observation and implicitly your wisdom. You are a naturally born observer; these books help you take advantage of it.
Yes, some of us (introverts) are shy. I am a shy person; I don’t see it as something to be not proud nor ashamed of. It is simply a part of how I am. Because of that, I don’t want to change it.
However, if you think you’re painfully shy and want to tame your shyness, the following books can help you do it.
Remind yourself that being shy is not the problem, but allowing your shyness to stop you be who you want to be, might be an issue.
Communication and Connecting
Let’s be honest, for us (introverts) communication and connecting with other are not always easy.
Because we like silence, we prefer to communicate mostly through body language. Even though that makes up the most significant part of communication, it’s not enough. Is it?
Because as an introvert you are a master observer you might think that those around you have this power too.
That is not the case. Extroverts rarely take the time to look around…they first act… So, don’t expect people to know what you mean without saying it.
Did you know that one of the secrets to a happy life is being connected? If connecting to other doesn’t come naturally to you, you must learn it.
You must learn how to communicate and connect with others so that you can build your support system, long lasting and meaningful relationships, and how to find the environments that fit you (not struggling to fit in.)
As an introvert, you might have been ostracized and asked (again and again) to change. If you felt inadequate as a consequence of that pressure, you might struggle with self-discipline.
What people don’t understand, either fear, either want to change. Being a reserved person living into a loud world might have made you a target for others to try to impose on you their way of doing things.
Plus, because you’re rarely talking about yourself and your achievements, those around you might think you don’t know “the right way” of doing things. Thus, they barged into your life uninvited offering you unsolicited advice and life lessons.
Because that happens quite often to introverts, we sometimes question ourselves and lose focus from our goals. Self-discipline contains the word “self” not only because it’s about disciplining yourself but also because “the self” should dictate about what you are disciplined and how.